5 signs someone is a sociopath
You may have heard the term sociopath used in the media, or as a way to describe characters in films. But the term is rarely used as a medical definition, with doctors preferring the term ‘antisocial personality disorder.’
Someone who displays sociopathic tendencies appears from the outside to be a relatively normal person – but their motives are very different. In relationships or friendships the sociopath acts only for personal gain. They get what they want from you and go. That’s why one minute you’ll be fielding ten calls a day, and then you may not hear from them for days or weeks.
Some of the best known (almost loveable) sociopaths from the big screen include Meryl Streep’s character Miranda from The Devil Wears Prada; or for a more extreme example think of Christian Bale’s character Patrick in American Psycho.
But if you’re a regular person who wonders if you may have found yourself with a partner or friend who lives under the sociopath halo, read on to find out why this may be a tricky place to be.
1. You will find yourself blamed for a lot of things that aren’t your fault
A sociopath tends to respond to criticism or confrontation with aggression, or they may give you the silent treatment. Most of us tend to feel as though behaviours like this indicate that we have done something wrong, but to be honest it’s just how a sociopath exerts their influence on you.
2. You might find them a bit hot and cold
Most people are not one hundred per cent defined as being a sociopath. More than likely they have got tendencies towards these behaviours, so sometimes they’ll be just fine and other times – look out. This can make it tricky to have a relationship with them, as you just don’t know from day to day which side of their personality you’re going to get. To them, the friendship is manufactured in order for them to gain something from you.
3. They can put you in danger
A sociopath tends to think that the law doesn’t apply to them. They engage in risky behaviour, which can put other people at risk. It’s not always physical danger (though that plays a part) – they can also cause financial problems for others through deceit, or wear down a person through psychological bullying.
4. They may try to negatively influence you
Sociopaths can be very charming when they want to be, and use their powers of persuasion to get you to do what they want. Whether it’s deciding on who you should invite to your birthday party, or always getting you to pay the cheque at dinner is a matter of degree depending on their power over you.
5. They can fly under the radar of the law
As opposed to criminals who break clear cut laws, a sociopath is more likely to break a moral code. Meaning, they can be aggressive or act dishonestly, but they don’t always break laws, which would lead to prosecution. More than likely they find their target (kind hearted people with a positive outlook), get what they want, and move on. In most cases, once you realise what’s going on it’s best to cut all ties and distance yourself from them for good.
Have you ever found yourself in a relationship with someone who displays sociopathic tendencies? How did you manage? We would love to hear from you in the comments.