Alex O'Brien
Relationships

Top 5 communication tips for a great relationship

Communication can be challenging at the best of times. Even a long-term, committed relationship can get rocky at some points. When we have a close relationship with someone we also have a lot of history with that person. We bring that history to the table with us at any discussion, especially ones that may be important or unpleasant. We also bring our own hang-ups and self-belief, which can further complicate things.

Clear communication is the key to a successful and happy relationship. Here are five ways to ensure it remains strong in your partnership.

  1. Don’t make assumptions – People in a long-term relationship often assume that they know what the other person is thinking. We also assume that our partner should know what we are thinking/feeling. Unfortunately we can’t read minds and in order to receive the kind of love or attention we need, we have to ask!
  2. Ask questions – You may assume you already know how your partner feels about love and its expression but their understanding may have shifted or changed entirely over time. Speaking openly and honestly can help keep the lines of communication clear.
  3. Be honest – If you’re finding that certain expectations are constantly not being met you may need to consider whether or not you’ve actually articulated your needs in an easily understood way. If you haven’t, now is the time to do so. If you have, work on your patience. Sometimes expressions of love can take time.
  4. Get clarity – Both you and your partner have different perspectives on things. This can lead to different interpretations and expectations. It’s important to discuss where you’re both coming from to work out any differences.
  5. Realise that you need to give and receive – Assuming a mindset where you’re constantly giving and receiving can alleviate a lot of issues. A healthy relationship inherently has a high level of love. Harnessing that is what’s important and where the challenge lies.

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tips, love, relationships, communication