First date dos and don’ts
Worried about an upcoming date? Here are some general dos and don’ts to go by to ensure your date goes smoothly.
DO listen
Nobody likes someone who seems so self-absorbed they can’t stop talking about themselves so make sure you’re taking an interest in your date and ask them plenty of questions! This will also let you discover who he or she really is (and whether there’ll be a second date or not…).
DON’T reveal too much too soon
While you might be connecting to your date and have the urge to be completely honest about your past relationships, the first date is not the best time to discuss personal issues. Keep it light and friendly and if you get to know your date better, than by all means you’ll have to delve into more personal discussions.
DO keep an open mind
Sometimes our dates might have quirks that make us want to roll our eyes. Perhaps they take forever to order at a restaurant or they have a strange pre-movie ritual but if they’re not a big deal-breakers then keep an open mind. The little things shouldn’t distract from seeing if you have a genuine connection with someone.
DON’T meet at awkward places
Skip places that need extensive travel and also avoid springing a surprise activity on a first date. The classics of a coffee date or dinner may not be original but they are a nice setting to get to know each other. Save the other date ideas for further down the track.
DO trust your instincts
Your family and friends might not be the best people to consult about who or what is right for you. Of course, take on board what they say and their worry might have some foundations to consider, but ultimately trust yourself and your instincts on what’s best for you.
DON’T take a call
It goes without saying that you shouldn’t be staring at your phone while you’re on a date but also you shouldn’t be taking any calls that aren’t an emergency. While you might assure your date it will only take a second to answer that call from a friend or family member, it sends the signal that you’re not that engaged in the date.