"What hope have I got?" The heartbreaking detail in Michael Clarke's memoir
In his 2016 autobiography My Story, the former Aussie cricket captain has revealed the commitment issues he has dealt with as a result of his parents’ divorce.
Les, Clarke’s father, had detached himself emotionally from his mother Debbie while battling prostate cancer and the pair split after 25 years together.
“Their break-up affected me to the core,” Clarke wrote. “When I split up with my then fiancee Lara Bingle in 2010, part of the undercurrent in my thinking is that if a couple like Mum and Dad can’t make it, what hope have I got?
“I don’t even want to start a serious relationship if it’s going to end in a separation. Mum and Dad are my heroes, and their marriage has always been a kind of gold standard for (sister) Leanne and me. I can’t imagine myself measuring up to my parents’ partnership. How can I do it, if they can’t?
“It takes me a long time to get over that fear. When Kyly Boldy and I start dating, I open up with her about it. There is a strength of love between us that helps me get over my self-doubt.”
He then writes about how the pair met, but it wasn’t until his relationship with Bingle fell apart that the two connected.
“By that stage I was going through a rough time, and Kyly’s warmth and compassion touched me,” Clarke wrote.
“She had been brought up in a very close and loving family, and encouraged me to let my vulnerability show rather than seeking ways to cover it up.
“She and I shared fundamental values — she knew that when things were at their most difficult, the people you turned to were your family and close friends. She could see that I was needing the comfort of family, and I fell in love with her family too.View this post on Instagram
“That strong bond of unity provided an extra reinforcement for me at a time when my self-confidence was being shaken. She convinced me that I could hope for the kind of home life I wanted, that I shouldn’t give up on myself.”
The Clarkes have since confirmed their split in a statement after The Australian revealed they were headed for divorce.View this post on Instagram
“After living apart for some time, we have made the difficult decision to separate as a couple, amicably,” the statement read.
“With the greatest of respect for each other, we’ve come to the mutual conclusion that this is the best course for us to take while committed to the co-parenting of our daughter.”
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