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Australia should follow Ireland’s lead and add stronger health warning labels to alcohol

<p><a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/emmanuel-kuntsche-430354">Emmanuel Kuntsche</a>, <em><a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/la-trobe-university-842">La Trobe University</a></em>; <a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/paula-obrien-4221">Paula O'Brien</a>, <em><a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/the-university-of-melbourne-722">The University of Melbourne</a></em>, and <a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/robin-room-3770">Robin Room</a>, <em><a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/la-trobe-university-842">La Trobe University</a></em></p> <p>From <a href="https://www.foodstandards.gov.au/industry/labelling/Documents/q-and-a-pwl-requirements-sep-2020.pdf">August 2023</a>, Australian beer, wine, spirits and pre-mixed drinks have to warn of the <a href="https://theconversation.com/australia-has-some-of-the-highest-rates-of-drinking-during-pregnancy-its-time-to-make-labelling-mandatory-142645">harms of drinking alcohol while pregnant</a>. But they don’t have to mention the other harms of alcohol for the wider population.</p> <p>Ireland <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/may/22/ireland-to-introduce-world-first-alcohol-health-labelling-policy">recently signed legislation</a> to introduce tougher alcohol warning labels, to warn about the risks of liver disease and fatal cancers from drinking alcohol. These will be in place from 2026.</p> <p>Considering the ongoing efforts of the industry to undermine the introduction of <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2214109X21005702">effective alcohol labelling</a> worldwide, the Irish example is an important victory for public health.</p> <p>In Australia, it’s time to put consumer health and rights before commercial interests and warn people drinking and buying alcohol of the risks.</p> <h2>Educating consumers about the health risks</h2> <p>Alcohol causes <a href="https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/alcohol">more than 200 diseases, injuries and other health conditions</a>.</p> <p>There is strong evidence that from the first drink, the risk of various cancers (of the breast, liver, colon, rectum, oropharynx, larynx and oesophagus) <a href="https://adf.org.au/insights/alcohol-cancer-risk/">increases</a>. This is <a href="https://www.cancervic.org.au/cancer-information/preventing-cancer/limit-alcohol/how-alcohol-causes-cancer">because</a>:</p> <ul> <li> <p>ethanol (pure alcohol) and its toxic by-product acetaldehyde damages cells by binding with DNA, causing cells to replicate incorrectly</p> </li> <li> <p>alcohol influences hormone levels, which can modify how cells grow and divide</p> </li> <li> <p>direct tissue damage can occur, increasing the absorption of other cancer-causing substances.</p> </li> </ul> <p>Alcohol use kills <a href="https://www.abs.gov.au/statistics/health/causes-death/causes-death-australia/2021">more than four Australians</a> a day (the highest rate in the past decade) and results in <a href="https://ndri.curtin.edu.au/ndri/media/documents/publications/T302.pdf">A$182 million of avoidable costs</a> per day.</p> <p>Yet only half of Australians know drinking alcohol <a href="https://adf.org.au/insights/alcohol-breast-cancer/">can cause cancer</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.jsad.com/doi/10.15288/jsad.2020.81.249">Research shows</a> mandatory health labelling is an important way to increase awareness and should form part of a comprehensive <a href="https://fdslive.oup.com/www.oup.com/academic/pdf/openaccess/9780192844484.pdf">alcohol control strategy</a>.</p> <figure class="align-center "><img src="https://images.theconversation.com/files/530732/original/file-20230607-17-hl3pvs.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;fit=clip" sizes="(min-width: 1466px) 754px, (max-width: 599px) 100vw, (min-width: 600px) 600px, 237px" srcset="https://images.theconversation.com/files/530732/original/file-20230607-17-hl3pvs.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=400&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 600w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/530732/original/file-20230607-17-hl3pvs.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=400&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1200w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/530732/original/file-20230607-17-hl3pvs.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=400&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 1800w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/530732/original/file-20230607-17-hl3pvs.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=503&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 754w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/530732/original/file-20230607-17-hl3pvs.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=503&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1508w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/530732/original/file-20230607-17-hl3pvs.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=503&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 2262w" alt="Person pours wine into a glass at a lunch" /><figcaption><span class="caption">Many people are unaware of the link between alcohol and cancer.</span> <span class="attribution"><a class="source" href="https://www.shutterstock.com/image-photo/making-sure-glasses-stay-full-shot-2151108503">Shutterstock</a></span></figcaption></figure> <h2>Countering industry influence</h2> <p>The alcohol industry currently uses alcohol labels and packaging as a marketing and branding tool. Alcohol warning labels help counter these marketing messages.</p> <p>Alcohol industry interests have so far succeeded in exempting alcoholic drinks from the usual <a href="https://fdslive.oup.com/www.oup.com/academic/pdf/openaccess/9780192844484.pdf">consumer information requirements</a>. Under the <a href="https://www.fao.org/fao-who-codexalimentarius/en/">international labelling guidelines</a>, all processed foods must have all ingredients listed on the label. But alcohol industry interests have so far succeeded in these rules <a href="https://movendi.ngo/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/Hepworth-et-al-2020.pdf">not being applied to alcoholic beverages</a>.</p> <p>In Australia, the alcohol content and number of standard drinks must be <a href="https://www.foodstandards.gov.au/consumer/labelling/Pages/Labelling-of-alcoholic-beverages.aspx">listed on the product’s label</a>. However, there is no requirement, as for other foods and drinks, that ingredients (except for certain allergens such as milk or gluten) and nutritional information (energy, carbohydrates, and so on) be listed.</p> <p>Aside from warnings to pregnant women to abstain from alcohol, there is no provision for consumer information about the risks of alcohol consumption on alcohol packaging. Yet such warnings are required for other hazardous substances taken into the body, such as tobacco.</p> <h2>How Ireland is leading the charge</h2> <p>Ireland is leading the world with its alcohol labelling. From 2026, drinks containing alcohol will have to inform consumers about the specific risks of liver disease and fatal cancers.</p> <p>Labels will also have to notify buyers of the alcohol risks to pregnancy, the calorie content of the beverage, and the number of grams of alcohol it contains.</p> <figure class="align-center "><img src="https://images.theconversation.com/files/530734/original/file-20230607-16366-8nixs9.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;fit=clip" sizes="(min-width: 1466px) 754px, (max-width: 599px) 100vw, (min-width: 600px) 600px, 237px" srcset="https://images.theconversation.com/files/530734/original/file-20230607-16366-8nixs9.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=400&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 600w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/530734/original/file-20230607-16366-8nixs9.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=400&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1200w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/530734/original/file-20230607-16366-8nixs9.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=400&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 1800w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/530734/original/file-20230607-16366-8nixs9.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=503&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 754w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/530734/original/file-20230607-16366-8nixs9.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=503&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1508w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/530734/original/file-20230607-16366-8nixs9.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=503&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 2262w" alt="People walk past a pub in Ireland" /><figcaption><span class="caption">Health warning labels will be mandatory in Ireland from 2026.</span> <span class="attribution"><a class="source" href="https://www.shutterstock.com/image-photo/dublin-ireland-july-11-2021-outdoor-2007076256">Shutterstock</a></span></figcaption></figure> <p>The new labelling move <a href="https://www.cancer.ie/about-us/news/irish-cancer-society-statement-on-the-introduction-of-health-warning-labels-on-alcohol-products">demonstrates</a> the government has prioritised reducing alcohol-related disease and has widespread support. A recent <a href="https://academic.oup.com/eurpub/article/33/2/323/7067991">household survey</a> in Ireland found 81.9% of the more than 1,000 participants supported the introduction of health warning labels on alcohol.</p> <h2>Barriers to overcome in Australia</h2> <p>In 2020, in the face of intense pressure from industry groups, the Australian government decided on new labelling requirements for alcoholic beverages, but only to warn about the <a href="https://theconversation.com/australia-has-some-of-the-highest-rates-of-drinking-during-pregnancy-its-time-to-make-labelling-mandatory-142645">risks of drinking during pregnancy</a>. From a public health point of view, this was a mediocre compromise.</p> <p>Australia is currently considering introducing energy content (kilojoule) labelling on alcoholic beverages. This would be a positive step and but it is as far as Australia seems willing to go for now. There are no plans for Australia to follow Ireland’s lead.</p> <p>Some countries seem to be <a href="https://www.ibec.ie/drinksireland/news-insights-and-events/news/2023/05/16/strong-international-opposition-to-irelands-alcohol-labelling-proposals">gearing up</a> to use the World Trade Organization’s processes to oppose Ireland’s new labels.</p> <p>Australia <a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22716074/">previously opposed</a> enhanced alcohol warning labels Thailand proposed, at the same time Australia was seeking international support for its tobacco plain packaging laws. This time, Australia should prioritise the public’s health over commercial interests and support Ireland’s alcohol warning messages in the World Trade Organization.<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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Read the <a href="https://theconversation.com/australia-should-follow-irelands-lead-and-add-stronger-health-warning-labels-to-alcohol-206985">original article</a>.</p> <p><em>Images: Getty</em></p>

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6 expert tips to make your relationship stronger

<p><strong>1. Strengthening your bond </strong></p> <p>As we settle into the new year, it’s the ideal time to reflect on different aspects of your life and what – if anything – you want to change. If you’re in a relationship, it may be an opportunity to set new goals together.</p> <p>Geoff Lamb, couple and psychosexual therapist, offers these tips on giving your relationship a reboot.</p> <p><strong>2. Start a hobby together</strong></p> <p>When do you and your partner spend time together? Is it the humdrum of washing the dishes at night or do you hang out outside of domestic drudgery? Finding a hobby that you both enjoy could be a way to bring you together and make some new memories.</p> <p>“If you don’t have at least one already, and even if you do, activities and interests in common are a good way of spending time together,” suggests Lamb. “It’s important to remember that contact is the important thing.”</p> <p>“Try not to get competitive with each other. Remember to emphasise the shared experience. If you do find yourself getting competitive, it’s a good idea to get curious about why this may be and better still to acknowledge and discuss it with your partner.”</p> <p><strong>3. Improve your communication </strong></p> <p>Communication is a huge deal, from the everyday check-ins to the long, challenging conversations. However, you might not be getting your message across in the best possible way. If you’re getting lost in translation, you may want to switch up the way you speak with your partner. Lamb suggests taking the following tips to do just that:</p> <p>Tip 1: Keep things simple</p> <p>“The important things which need to be communicated in a relationship – feelings and needs – really are that simple,” says Lamb. Make sure you’re focusing on the main point, rather than straying to different topics and bringing in too many different perspectives.</p> <p>Tip 2: Focus on your feelings</p> <p>Worried about how your partner will react? Take a deep breath and say what you’ve got to say anyway. “Focus on your feelings rather than either your partner’s possible reactions in advance or their actual reactions in the present,” says Lamb. “Keep the focus on your feelings rather than on your partner’s behaviour. Start sentences with ‘I’ rather than ‘you’.”</p> <p>Tip 3: Don’t over-explain yourself</p> <p>When you think you’re not getting through to your partner, you may be tempted to repeat yourself. However, doing so could mean that your partner switches off. “Long explanations and justifications create distance rather than closeness, which is the whole purpose of communication in couples, so they’re best avoided,” says Lamb.</p> <p>Tip 4: Leave your preconceptions at the door</p> <p>One of the biggest mistakes you can make is believing that your partner should respond in a certain way. Take them as they are – not how you think they should be. “Don’t compare your partner with other people or with the ‘average, reasonable’ person,” says Lamb.</p> <p><strong>4. Become a better listener </strong></p> <p>Conversations are a two-way street. It doesn’t matter how good of a talker you are, if you can’t listen well enough. Take this chance to upgrade your listening skills once and for all.</p> <p>Tip 1: Don’t take things personally</p> <p>Are you getting offended? “Don’t take anything your partner says – especially when they’re angry or upset –personally,” says Lamb. “This is really difficult, especially when our partner is attacking, judging or criticising us. What makes it easier is when we focus on our partner rather than on ourselves.”</p> <p>Tip 2: Take your partner seriously</p> <p>“This may seem to contradict tip one, but the difference is important. However well or badly they’re expressing it, what your partner is saying is meaningful to them,” says Lamb. Take it seriously by focusing on what might be important to your partner that they’re trying to communicate to you. That way, you’re moving in the direction of closeness.”</p> <p>Tip 3: Don’t try to solve their problem</p> <p>Spoiler: You don’t have to solve every issue. “Your partner may, very rarely, invite you to do this, but mostly what they need is for you to understand and accept their feelings,” says Lamb. “To be able to sit with an unsolved problem is another situation which can make us feel uncomfortable, but that discomfort belongs with us rather than with our partner.”</p> <p><strong>5. Make time for intimacy </strong></p> <p>Sex and intimacy bonds couples. If you’re in a long-term relationship, you may find that the passion has started to wane. That’s normal. You’re not going to have the same lust for one another after years together. Despite that, there are ways you can boost your sex life.</p> <p>“Making time for sex also needs desire and I can understand that combining this with planning can seem contradictory,” says Lamb. “One way of resolving this is to see the planning as creating a ‘space’ in which sex could be a possibility. It can also be helpful to broaden the definition of sex to include any kind of physical sensuous contact. This takes the pressure off both partners to ‘perform’.”</p> <p>“Creating the right environment is something that is often recommended. Having a private comfortable space, free of distractions – especially phones – is definitely a must. Some couples find that taking penetrative sex off the agenda can be freeing, especially if there are different levels of desire or it is some time since they’ve had sex.”</p> <p><strong>6. Plan a regular date night</strong></p> <p>One of the most exciting things about meeting someone new is heading out on dates together. You might go to see a film, head out for dinner, or go bowling. It doesn’t matter. The point is that you’re spending time together and building something. Now that you’ve been with your partner a while, ensure that you still have some quality time together.</p> <p>“Getting out of your familiar environment and away from work or domestic responsibilities can rejuvenate a relationship,” suggests Lamb. “It can also be a way of spending unpressured time with your partner and it works well if the relationship is basically sound, but lacking in ‘spark’. What you have to remember though is that, unless you’re vigilant, the same dynamics will play out in the date as in the rest of your relationship.”</p> <p>This article originally appeared on <a href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/relationships/6-expert-tips-to-make-your-relationship-stronger">Reader's Digest</a>. </p> <p><em>Image: Getty </em></p>

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“Done wonders”: Michael Clarke and Kyly’s relationship post-divorce stronger than ever

<div class="post_body_wrapper"> <div class="post_body"> <div class="body_text "> <p>Michael Clarke’s divorce from his wife Kyly has reportedly “done wonders” for their relationship.</p> <p>After the pair announced in a joint statement that their seven-year marriage was ending, the pair have agreed on a financial settlement and on arrangements to co-parent their four-year-old daughter, Kelsey Lee.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/B85VZAMp1DV/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B85VZAMp1DV/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Michael Clarke (@michaelclarkeofficial)</a> on Feb 22, 2020 at 8:23pm PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p><a rel="noopener noreferrer" href="https://www.theaustralian.com.au/business/media/separation-does-wonders-for-michael-and-kyly-clarke/news-story/10e42e915041e15e0f8eb8e82716d480" target="_blank"><em>The Australian</em></a><span> </span>revealed new details about the settlement as well as how the separation has affected the couple.</p> <p>“Ever since Michael moved out of the couple’s Sydney harbourside home in Vaucluse in September, relations between the pair have improved to the point that they are at their best in years,” said Nick Tabakoff from Media Diary.</p> <p>Negotiation of the settlement was a “lightning affair” and that the separation has “actually made things better for the Clarkes”.</p> <p>Clarke hinted that he had moved out of their family home when he posted a photo on Instagram at his Bondi home that he owned with Kyly, which the family have since sold.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/B8KajEHJ9gA/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B8KajEHJ9gA/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Michael Clarke (@michaelclarkeofficial)</a> on Feb 4, 2020 at 3:04pm PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>“After living apart for some time, we have made the difficult decision to separate as a couple, amicably,” they said in a joint statement.</p> <p>“With the greatest of respect for each other, we've come to the mutual conclusion that this is the best course for us to take while committed to the co-parenting of our daughter.”</p> <p>“We’d like to acknowledge the wonderful support we’ve had from family and friends, and at this time request privacy so that we can manage this next stage of our lives,” the statement read.</p> </div> </div> </div>

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How diversity and change has made the Australian family stronger than ever

<p>Nostalgia is a powerful force in how we think about family. There is a persistent myth that family structures were better in the past; that the “golden age” of marriage is over, and the family is in decline. Historical and sociological research tells a different story.</p> <p>There were dramatic changes to ideals and practices of family life across the 20th century. The five decades between the end of the first world war and the 1970s saw the triumph of ideals about <a href="http://www.palgrave.com/us/book/9781137328625">mutuality in love and romance</a>. Ordinary people could afford to marry for love, rather than on the basis of economic strategy. In the 1950s, more people married than ever before and married young.</p> <p>As many historians have observed, this all changed in the 1970s. The sexual revolution introduced new ideals about love, sex and relationships. Sex could be separated from love and marriage. No longer bound to life-long monogamy, sex could be viewed as “a rewarding form of play”.</p> <p>This loosening of the bounds of sex and marriage was enabled by significant social, medical and political changes: the contraceptive pill, safer access to abortion, no-fault divorce. The new attitudes to women, reproduction and marriage that underpinned and emerged the sexual revolution also altered understandings of the family.</p> <h2>Did the sexual revolution destroy the family?</h2> <p>The significance of marriage certainly changed. Marriage no longer regulates social life as was once the ideal. It is no longer the reason most people leave home and establish their own household, start a career, and embark on adulthood. Now, it’s something people contemplate after having achieved those goals.</p> <p>Marriage is no longer the structure in which people expect to make their sexual debut. It is not necessarily the structure in which people have and raise children. Nor is it the structure in which many people expect to live out their final years.</p> <p>However, marriage is far from being “over”. Demographic research reveals that the profile of family life in Australia has been remarkably stable for the last 20 years.</p> <p>People are marrying later, but marriages lasting slightly longer. Almost all couples live together before marrying (almost 80%). And marriages are becoming more equal.</p> <p>US historian Stephanie Coontz recently reissued her study of the American family, <a href="http://www.stephaniecoontz.com/books/thewayweneverwere/">The Way We Never Were</a>. Coontz suggests the ongoing claims of social conservatives that the family is in crisis are not well-founded.</p> <p>While divorce rates are high, they are actually falling. And divorce isn’t necessarily bad for families. Coontz found that after the introduction of no-fault divorce, suicide rates of wives plummeted, and so did rates of domestic violence.</p> <p>Despite more women engaging in paid work, parents have actually increased the amount of time spent on child care. Women’s hours of child care have increased slightly, and men’s have tripled. While women still do more domestic work, the combined hours of paid and domestic work for men and women are similar. Men tend to increase their hours of paid work after having children.</p> <p>This increase in equality in the home appears to be good for couples. Coontz found:</p> <blockquote> <p>… heterosexual couples who share housework and childcare equally now report the highest levels of marital and sexual satisfaction – and the most frequent sex.</p> </blockquote> <p>Anecdotal evidence suggests that marriage is actually increasing in popularity. Rather than life-long heterosexual monogamy being the only family ideal, new family values have emerged. Most Australians now recognise and value rainbow, blended and diverse family structures.</p> <p>So rather than the sexual revolution having undermined the family, it appears that the family is thriving. Our family values have changed, though. For most Australians, marriage is no longer a ritual that initiates a family, but something contemplated when the family has become established.</p> <h2>Have our politicians kept up with changes to the family?</h2> <p>Families are always spoken about in politics as homogeneous, unchanging and timeless.</p> <p>The last 50 years have seen the development of a range of “ideal” families. The vast majority of Australians now support marriage equality for LGBT people, recognising the dignity of value of existing LGBT families.</p> <p>It’s time for our political leaders to catch up.<!-- End of code. If you don't see any code above, please get new code from the Advanced tab after you click the republish button. 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6 tips to make your nails healthier and stronger

<p>As we age, our nails can become weaker and more brittle, making the little everyday things in life a struggle – not to mention causing a hefty amount of pain when they break.</p> <p>If that sounds like you, you’ll be happy to learn you don’t need to fork out for expensive treatments or put up with that gross chemical smell that often comes with many nail products.</p> <p>Here are six natural solutions that will leave you with healthier, stronger nails in no time.</p> <p><strong>1. Olive oil</strong></p> <p>This miracle ingredient has uses well beyond the kitchen. For an inexpensive remedy for damaged, weak or peeling nails, simply soak them in extra virgin olive oil for 10 to 15 minutes each day for a month, then two times a week after that.</p> <p><strong>2. Vitamin E cream</strong></p> <p>Choose a natural cuticle cream containing vitamin E and massage it into your nails and around the nail beds every night before bed. This will nourish your dry cuticles, improving the overall health of your nails.</p> <p><strong>3. Gloves</strong></p> <p>Dishwashing liquid, detergent, cleaners and other substances used during housework can wreak havoc on already damaged nails. The simplest way to prevent further harm is by wearing gloves while completing chores, then washing, cleansing and moisturising your hands and nails afterwards.</p> <p><strong>4. Biotin</strong></p> <p>Biotin is a B complex vitamin which helps keep your skin, hair, nails, eyes, liver and nervous system healthy. To increase your intake, ensure your diet includes biotin-rich foods such as avocado, cooked eggs, whole grains and cauliflower. Supplements are also available.</p> <p><strong>5. Avoid nail polish remover</strong></p> <p>This shouldn’t come as a surprise, but most (if not all) nail polish removers will cause damage of some kind. If you can’t resist a manicure, try to avoid using nail polish remover more than once or twice a month, and never use one containing acetone.</p> <p><strong>6. Drink water</strong></p> <p>It seems like most of our health complaints can be solved with those two words, but it’s true – staying hydrated on the inside will keep your outside (including your nails) hydrated, too.</p> <p>Tell us in the comments below, have you successfully treated brittle nails before? We’d love to hear your tips!</p>

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7 tips for stronger, healthier nails

<p>If your nails are prone to breaking, are weak or just won’t grow – we can help. We’ve got some quick and easy tips for improving the strength and overall health of your nails.</p> <p><strong>1. Protect your fingernails</strong></p> <p>Think about how much our hands are exposed to each day – washing up water, food from cooking and eating, soap, dust, grime and more. It’s no wonder our poor nails aren’t feeling their best. When you can, protect your nails by wearing gloves when you are using harsh chemicals. You can also use a barrier cream to keep moisture in around the delicate nail area. A clear polish is also a good idea as it strengthens the nail and protects them from damage.</p> <p><strong>2. Bless your cotton socks</strong></p> <p>At night before bed, slather some moisturiser onto your toes and really rub it into your nails. Pop some cotton socks on to sleep in, as this will stop the cream rubbing off in the night. In the morning your feet will be noticeably softer and your nails will have had a good moisture soak all night.</p> <p><strong>3. Trim after a bath</strong></p> <p>The best time to cut your nails is after they’ve been soaking in warm water. So get into the habit of only cutting them after you’ve had a soak in a bath, as this will mean you’ll be less likely to break or chip them compared to when they are bone dry.</p> <p><strong>4. Be kind to your feet</strong></p> <p>We’re probably all guilty of being a slave to fashion at some point. But if you’re still forcing your feet into too-small or too-tall shoes, it can be causing pain and damage to your toenails. Try to get fitted by a professional, and remember not to wear the same shoes over and over.</p> <p><strong>5. Consider a supplement</strong></p> <p>Whether it’s a general multivitamin, omega-3 fish oils, vitamin E or a combination, there are many supplements available from the chemist that can help strengthen your nails and encourage growth. The other benefit is that many will also benefit your skin and hair too. You can also find specific products at the chemist that are designed to strengthen your nails.</p> <p><strong>6. Just add oil</strong></p> <p>A lack of moisture is the enemy of healthy nails, so try rubbing oil (such as coconut oil) into your fingernails and cuticles. It will be rapidly absorbed and will help keep your skin and nails supple and strong.</p> <p><strong>7. Watch out for chemicals</strong></p> <p>Every day we are exposed to chemicals which can damage our hands and nails, but it’s worth noting that there are often less harsh varieties of each of them. For instance choose a natural hand sanitiser rather than one loaded with alcohol, choose fragrance free baby wipes, natural sun creams and homemade or low-tox cleaning products.</p> <p>Have you tried any of these remedies and did they work for you? We would love to hear your point of view (or your own tips) in the comments.</p>

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Couples should spend time apart to get closer

<p>If you are looking to add a bit more spark to your relationship, spending time on your own sounds counterintuitive. But in fact, couples that don’t spend every minute together tend to be happier and their relationships stronger because of it. </p> <p>Think of it like this, how can you give your partner a chance to miss you if you’re always there? They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but it could just be that doing your own thing means you have something to talk about. Having your own friends, interests and lives means that you can come together later and fill each other in on the day’s events.</p> <p>It also means that if you do end up on your own, due to relationship breakdown or even death, you’ve got your own solid circle of friends to lean on. If you’ve spent all of your time with your partner and ignored your friendships, you may find the change much harder to deal with.</p> <p>Here are six ideas for things that you could do on your own even as part of a couple.</p> <p><strong>1. Attend your own social events</strong></p> <p>Having a regular catch up with the girls, or a weekly game of cricket with the guys is a great way to pursue your own interests with your social circle. There’s no need to tag along to your partner’s hobbies and interests if it really isn’t something that you can get involved with. Let them go (or go yourself) and enjoy spending some time as an individual rather than a couple.</p> <p><strong>2. Have two cars</strong></p> <p>If finances permit, having two cars is a great way to preserve your independence. Not having to rely on someone for a ride, or having to explain where you’re going, means you can just get up and go when the mood strikes.</p> <p><strong>3. Keep your own bank account</strong></p> <p>Most couples find that a joint account is ideal for paying bills and the mortgage. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have another account with your own money in it that you can spend on your own terms. Use it to treat yourself, to save up for something special, or even to buy nice things for the house that your partner may not think are essential.</p> <p><strong>4. Try taking yourself out on a date</strong></p> <p>Is there a movie you really want to see, or a restaurant you’d love to try – but your partner isn’t keen? That doesn’t mean you can’t go on your own. Spending some time on your own is a great way to enjoy some peace and quiet without the need to fill the silence with idle chitchat.</p> <p><strong>5. Take a trip solo or with friends</strong></p> <p>Making a road trip in order to go and visit your sister or friend can be lots of fun, and gives your partner a chance to do the same. You can spend the time catching up rather than worrying about whether your partner is having a good time.</p> <p><strong>6. Keep surprising each other</strong></p> <p>Wouldn’t you love it if your partner sent you off for the afternoon and prepared your favourite meal for that night? Or if you surprised them with a gift that you had picked up for them while your were out? The element of surprise is a great way to keep the spark in your relationship, and it’s lots of fun too. </p> <p>How do you spend time alone as part of a couple? Share in the comments below.</p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/relationships/2017/01/avoid-this-word-in-a-fight/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>The one word to avoid when arguing with your partner</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/relationships/2016/12/over60-community-share-their-beautiful-proposal-stories/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>Over60 community share their beautiful proposal stories</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/relationships/2016/12/advice-i-wish-i-could-give-my-20-year-old-self-about-love/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>Advice I wish I could give my 20-year-old self about love</strong></em></span></a></p> <p> </p>

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