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“He yelled the N-word”: Stan Grant speaks out on racist attack

<p dir="ltr"><em>Q+A</em> host Stan Grant has opened up about the time he faced unprovoked racist abuse from a stranger outside of the ABC’s headquarters, just days after <a href="https://www.oversixty.com.au/entertainment/tv/there-is-no-excuse-for-what-i-saw-stan-grant-calls-on-the-abc-to-do-better">calling for the broadcaster to “do better”</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">Grant, a Wiradjuri and Kamilaroi man, was attending the national summit on Aboriginal child safety in Adelaide when conversation turned to the incident involving a passerby and “the N-word”. </p> <p dir="ltr">“I was standing outside the ABC filming … and a young man and his girlfriend walked past me and, as they got close to me, he yelled the N-word loudly at me, right at me,” Grant explained.</p> <p dir="ltr">“So what if I’m on television, so what if I stayed in the White House with [former US President] Barack Obama …. so what if I can phone the Prime Minister [Anthony Albanese] and he’ll pick up the phone, so what? In that moment, that’s what I was to that person.</p> <p dir="ltr">“We don’t know when someone’s going to say that. No matter how successful you are, someone can always cut you down. </p> <p dir="ltr">“Racism can touch us anywhere.”</p> <p dir="ltr">When breaking the story, Grant was addressing an audience of approximately 250 individuals from across Australia - primarily First Nations experts and frontline workers - at the summit hosted by KWY.</p> <p dir="ltr">The group is a South Australia-based Aboriginal organisation who, according to their official website, “cover domestic and family violence, child protection, youth work, kinship care, disability, mentoring, Aboriginal education outcomes, perpetrator intervention, and cultural training and consultancy” across Adelaide and other regional centres. </p> <p dir="ltr">During the summit, Aboriginal Children’s Commissioner April Lawrie called on the South Australian government to take action against the rising rates of Aboriginal children who were being taken into state care, declaring that, “we’re removing [children] but we’re not supporting [families].” </p> <p dir="ltr">“It’s a telling story when [I] go into a school community to engage with young fullas … to find that I couldn’t take a photo because most of the Aboriginal children in that school community were a child in care [and can’t be identified].</p> <p dir="ltr">“That speaks more than what you see in data. That is the compelling story about what is going on in our Aboriginal communities, what is the relationship of the state with our Aboriginal families.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Reportedly, South Australia has a budget in excess of $500m, and only spends roughly $69m per year on early help services for families. </p> <p dir="ltr">As South Australia’s Child Protection Minister Katrine Hildyard said, the Malinauskas government intends to commit $3.2m to creating a new committee, while increasing the overall budget for family services by $13.4m. </p> <p dir="ltr">“We know that the current system is not working for Aboriginal families and children,” she stated.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Listening to the wisdom and experience of Aboriginal people is utterly fundamental to building a better approach.</p> <p dir="ltr">“This includes our government acknowledging how that legacy of colonisation and experiences of intergenerational trauma and racism influence the issues Aboriginal people face.”</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Images: Q+A / Youtube</em></p>

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Man wearing Melbourne footy jersey arrested for yelling at Prince Andrew

<p dir="ltr">A man wearing a Melbourne City FC jersey has been arrested after screaming at Prince Andrew as he walked behind Queen Elizabeth II’s coffin. </p> <p dir="ltr">The Queen’s coffin travelled through Edinburgh on Monday to St Giles' Cathedral as mourners paid their respects to the late monarch. </p> <p dir="ltr">Her four children, ​​King Charles III, Princess Anne, Prince Andrew and Prince Edward, were walking behind the hearse when a man began shouting at Prince Andrew. </p> <p dir="ltr">The man was seen cupping his hands around his mouth before shouting, “Andrew, you're a sick old man”. </p> <p dir="ltr">Police and mourners ganged up on the man before he was arrested and continued shouting “disgusting” and “I’ve done nothing wrong”. </p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr" lang="en">Prince Andrew heckled as the Queen's coffin passes <a href="https://t.co/85m9jUgszF">pic.twitter.com/85m9jUgszF</a></p> <p>— Christopher Marshall (@chrismarshll) <a href="https://twitter.com/chrismarshll/status/1569323294716829700?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">September 12, 2022</a></p></blockquote> <p dir="ltr">Police Scotland confirmed a 22-year old man was arrested “in connection with a breach of the peace' on the Royal Mile around 2.50pm on Monday.</p> <p dir="ltr">The man later identified himself on Scottish TV as “Rory”. </p> <p dir="ltr">It it believed the attack on Prince Andrew was due to his relationship with disgraced sex offender Jeffery Epstein. </p> <p dir="ltr">Prince Andrew was not allowed to wear military dress for the event, and other ones due to his relationship.</p> <p dir="ltr">However, an exception will reportedly be made for him to wear military dress as a special mark of respect for the Queen at the final vigil in Westminster Hall.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Images: Twitter</em></p>

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"He couldn't yell for help": Heartbroken dad speaks out

<p>The heartbroken father of six-year-old Joey Vines has spoken out about the tragic death of his young son. </p> <p>Joey's father Steven told police that while they were searching for the young boy while he was missing, he would not answer as he was non-verbal and unable to call for help. </p> <p>Police joined the frantic search for Joey on Sunday afternoon after he was reported missing in the Perth suburb of Booragoon. </p> <p>Just 90 minutes later, he was found unresponsive in their neighbours' swimming pool and tragically died later in hospital. </p> <p>Steven said life would never be the same without his "beautiful boy". </p> <p>“He was a beautiful little autistic boy, who couldn’t yell for help because he was non-verbal,” he told <a href="https://7news.com.au/news/wa/six-year-old-boy-couldnt-yell-for-help-after-falling-into-neighbours-pool-in-booragoon-c-6234952" target="_blank" rel="noopener">7News</a>.</p> <p>“He was a bloody special, special kid.”</p> <p>"We loved him to death and everyone that was in his life, he melted their bloody hearts."</p> <p>Joey leaves behind five siblings, who have all been left devastated by the accident. </p> <p>Steven said, “He couldn’t talk but we knew how to communicate with him. We loved him to death.”</p> <p>The six-year-old had just started school again at a facility for special needs children and was coming along in “leaps and bounds”, according to Steven. </p> <p>WA premier Mark McGowan offered his condolences to the grieving family. </p> <p>“Obviously a shocking thing and we were all hoping for the best, but it didn’t turn out that way. So can I pass on all our thoughts to little Joey’s family,” he said.</p> <p>Police say the death is not suspicious and a report will be prepared for the State Coroner.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Nine News footage / WA Police</em></p>

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“Yelling for help”: Passengers reveal heroic actions of P&O cruise ship as they spend 10 hours rescuing migrants

<p>British passengers on board a P&amp;O cruise liner have explained how the ship helped to rescue more than 20 migrants who were on an inflatable dinghy off the Spanish coast.</p> <p>Around 3,000 passengers were enjoying the stunning views of the Mediterranean as the ship sailed from Cadiz to Barcelona when they heard whistling, yelling and shouts for help coming from the water.</p> <p>Passengers rushed to the ship’s balcony where they spotted an overcrowded dinghy, which was struggling to stay afloat.</p> <p>The cruise ship quickly came to a halt as they spent an hour trying to find the inflatable raft.</p> <p>A lifeboat was then sent to pick up the passengers, most of whom were men in their late teens. This heroic action took ten hours, as the cruise liner had to turn around to rescue those in the dinghy.</p> <p>One passenger, who did not want to give her name, said to<span> </span><em><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7503963/British-passengers-P-O-cruise-tell-giant-ship-rescued-20-migrants-Spanish-coast.html" target="_blank">The Daily Mail</a></em>: “Once the migrants were on board we had to go back on ourselves to Almeria, which took up a lot of time.</p> <p>“The attitude of the passengers was quite mixed. Many were angry that we had been delayed and had to rescue these migrants. It was actually quite shocking what some people were saying.”</p> <p>The passenger added: “It's not what you expect to happen on a Mediterranean cruise, but these people were just floating in the middle of the sea and were clearly in distress. We couldn't just leave them.”</p> <p>Dorothy Hallet, 73, told<span> </span><em><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7503963/British-passengers-P-O-cruise-tell-giant-ship-rescued-20-migrants-Spanish-coast.html" target="_blank">MailOnline</a></em>: 'It was certainly quite an interesting experience.</p> <p>“On rushing towards the balcony, it was clear to see that in the water was an inflatable and overloaded dinghy.</p> <p>“The officers on the bridge were aware of the situation but it takes some considerable time to stop a large ship and then circle it around to find the small craft again.</p> <p>“The captain did an excellent job of manoeuvring the vessel.”</p> <p>After the migrants were brought on board the ship, an endeavour that took two hours, they were searched by the ship’s security staff.</p> <p>The captain then apologised for the delay, explaining that it was caused by “migrants in distress”.</p> <p>Once the passengers reached Almeria, the migrants were taken off the ship by the Spanish coastguard and were handed over to local police.</p> <p>Passengers also revealed that upon leaving the Azura, the migrants thanked them and the ship's officials for helping to save their lives.</p> <p>Mrs Hallet, from Hampshire, who was on the cruise with her husband, added: “It's been a great humanitarian operation by P&amp;O and they should be applauded for that. What happens next to those people will be down to the authorities.</p> <p>“No matter what people think regarding those who make the often foolhardy and hazardous journeys from North Africa towards the countries of southern Europe, when faced with the possibility of rescuing drowning people we are bound by the instincts of humanity to save them.'”</p>

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Hosts get fired up on The Project in awkward clash: “You can yell at me all you like”

<p>Peter Helliar and Steve Price went at it again on Network Ten’s <em>The Project </em>on Monday night, clashing over a proposal to introduce pill testing after the cluster of drug-related deaths at Australian music festivals.</p> <p>The show introduced a segment with Greens MP Cate Faehrmann who believes the government’s zero-tolerance stance on illicit drug use is costing young people’s lives.</p> <p>Ms Faerhrmann admitted taking ecstasy and MDMA from time to time in an opinion piece published by <a href="https://www.smh.com.au/national/i-m-coming-out-about-drugs-it-s-time-get-real-about-pill-testing-20190120-p50shc.html"><em>The Sydney Morning Herald</em>.</a></p> <p>“Young people are not fools. They want us, as politicians, to 'get real' about illegal drugs,” she wrote in her op-ed piece. "We need pill testing and other harm minimisation measures to keep our young people safe.”</p> <p>The politician believes instead of enforcing routine dog sniffers, festivals should have drug safety personnel and medical tents that are well-resourced at festivals.</p> <p>Radio talk show host Price has said he is against making testing kits available, and believes kids are better off to be “freaked out” over sniffer dogs at festival gates rather than die from drug-related causes.</p> <p>“You don’t even want sniffer dogs outside the gates, surely those sniffer dogs are saving people’s lives, that’s a dumb idea,” Price said on <em>The Project</em> panel with Ms Faerhrmann.</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">“In my 20s, I went to dance parties, I took MDMA… I’m not saying that everybody should do it but I’m saying let’s be real - a lot of people are.”<br /><br />There are growing calls to introduce pill testing and today, a unique voice joined that chorus - Greens MP <a href="https://twitter.com/greencate?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@greencate</a>. <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/TheProjectTV?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">#TheProjectTV</a> <a href="https://t.co/upl95flXP5">pic.twitter.com/upl95flXP5</a></p> — The Project (@theprojecttv) <a href="https://twitter.com/theprojecttv/status/1087275004759224321?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 21, 2019</a></blockquote> <p>After the segment ended with the politician, Helliar debated with Price over his stance that young people are better to be “freaked out” by police resources at dance festivals.</p> <p>“Pricey, the problem with what you’re saying with it being better to freak the kids out than let them die is that they are freaking out by seeing these sniffer dogs, then they’re taking the drugs,” Helliar said on air.</p> <p>“So the freaking out and dying is going hand-in hand.”</p> <p>“Well, if you don’t take the drugs you don’t die,” Price retaliated.</p> <p>Both men began raising their voices to talk over one another as they both argued their opposing sides.</p> <p>Price said money should be put into drug awareness campaigns while Helliar labelled the radio host’s views as outdated.</p> <p>“You’ve got the Nancy Reagan policy that hasn’t worked since the '80s,” Helliar said.</p> <p>“I’ve got no idea about Nancy Reagan, I’m just telling you … I’m not going to change my mind, but you can yell at me all you like,” Price fired back.</p> <p>Viewers of the show did not take a liking to Price’s views and went to social media to express their anger.</p> <p dir="ltr">Steve Price is the reason I no longer watch <a href="https://twitter.com/theprojecttv?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@theprojecttv</a> — because his views are so abhorrent, ghastly, callous, bigoted, immoral, ethically bankrupt, and insane, that I consider listening to him a form of auditory poisoning.</p> <p><a class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en">— Trevor Rose (@galacticprez) </a><a href="https://twitter.com/galacticprez/status/1087286035426488320?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 21, 2019</a><a class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"></a></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://twitter.com/StevePriceMedia?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@StevePriceMedia</a> here's what you're refusing/unable to understand<br />Young ppl experiment with drugs<br />They think they're invincible<br />They'll swallow every pill if they think they'll be caught<br />Saying don't do it isn't working<br />What needs to change are attitudes like yours<a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/theprojecttv?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">#theprojecttv</a></p> <p><a class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en">— Dr Ness (@Doctor_Ness) </a><a href="https://twitter.com/Doctor_Ness/status/1087266084820987904?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 21, 2019</a><a class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"></a></p> <p>However supporters of the radio show host's opinion flocked to Twitter, with one one user saying, “Waste of money on pill testing. It’s about accountability.”</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://twitter.com/StevePriceMedia?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@StevePriceMedia</a> I agree!! Just saw the segment on the project. Waste of money on pill testing. It’s about accountability. Take the “illegal” drugs &amp; there are consequences (huge cost, charged or death), Simple. Everyone wants to blame others but themselves. Snowflake Syndrome!!</p> — Mark Musumeci (@wolfyGTR) <a href="https://twitter.com/wolfyGTR/status/1087464455187746817?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 21, 2019</a></blockquote> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">To use the above logic, if someone speeding sees a radar and then speeds up to avoid being caught and dies, we should get rid of all the radars?? The cases of people dying from swallowing pills due to police as they enter are few and far between.</p> — Dr. Terry Goldsworthy (@tgoldswo) <a href="https://twitter.com/tgoldswo/status/1087444704235446272?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 21, 2019</a></blockquote> <p>What do you think about pill testing at music festivals to help save the lives of teenagers and young adults? Let us know in the comments below. </p>

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5 signs of verbal abuse

<p>So many people dismiss these signs as petty, but constant character attacks often indicate something much worse than just a disagreement. When does fighting or yelling cross the line into verbal abuse? Look out for these signs.</p> <p><strong>1. They make sweeping generalisations</strong><br />People who are verbally abusive tend to move beyond an individual disagreement with another person and instead become critical of entire groups. This could be a gender, religion, profession or political group. For example, a partner might become abusive and dismiss your opinion because “all women are stupid”. This makes it very hard for you to ever put forward your point or have your opinion understood as the other party has already negated it.</p> <p><strong>2. They attack the things you love</strong><br />In a standard argument, most people would never stoop to insulting someone’s family, friends or beliefs. Verbal abuse however often goes straight for these very personal subjects. Negative comments about things that you hold dear are extremely offensive and designed specifically to upset you.</p> <p><strong>3. They try to pretend it was a joke</strong><br />“Don’t get so upset, I was just joking” is a common phrase spoken by people who are verbally abusive. It can work in two ways. Firstly, the abuser can absolve themselves of any responsibility because ‘they were just joking’. Often people who are abusive still want to feel good about themselves, so employ tricks like this to rewrite the narrative. Secondly, it means that you are not allowed to get upset or angry in response to them. They have stripped you of your power and dismissed your genuine emotions, turning you instead into someone who ‘can’t take a joke’.</p> <p><strong>4. It sticks with you</strong><br />Everyone has disagreements and at some point will have raised their voice to a partner or child. These are usually forgotten quite quickly and everyone moves on with no real harm done. One of the signs that this has crossed over into the realm of verbal abuse is if you find yourself unable to forget it. The words have genuinely wounded you and you are unable to let go. Verbal abuse can begin to alter how you think about yourself and have seriously damaging effects in the long term.</p> <p><strong>5. You feel nervous around them</strong><br />When everything you say or do is met with a torrent of abuse, then it’s only natural that you will start to feel nervous. You shouldn't be so worried about what someone will say that it impacts your usual behaviour. If you find yourself mentally editing your conversations so as not to provoke the other person, then it’s likely that their behaviour has crossed the line into genuine abuse.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/relationships/2017/02/why-you-should-see-a-marriage-counsellor/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>Why you should see a marriage counsellor</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/relationships/2017/02/how-to-move-on-from-a-heart-wrenching-breakup/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>How to move on from a heart-wrenching breakup</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/relationships/2017/02/why-people-stay-in-unhappy-relationships/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>Why people stay in unhappy relationships</strong></em></span></a></p>

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Why you shouldn’t yell at kids

<p>While many of us aren’t exactly happy to admit it, chances are good that we yell at the children in our lives from time to time. The “yelling gene” may be triggered when you become a parent for the first time but it certainly doesn’t dissipate with time. As a grandparent, you may have learnt (or taught yourself) to yell less but still catch yourself doing it reasonably regularly. This is because yelling often becomes our default way of communicating with our kids. It appears to get results so we keep doing it, despite the research telling us that we don’t like doing it.</p> <p>The question of why we yell while at home, even when we find it an unpleasant mode of behaviour and communication, is complex. Often parents or grandparents will feel that it’s the only way to actually get children to listen. After numerous polite requests are ignored, yelling appears to be the only option. Research has found that the reason children often do not respond to our more pleasant requests is that we’ve trained them in a way to wait until we yell before they actually need to act. We make requests of them in a nice way and when they don’t comply, nothing untoward happens. We may try again and again and still, no result and no consequence. So we yell. Our yelling is also linked directly to the timing of the requests we make of our children. We will often ask them to do something without considering what they currently have going on. If heavily engaged in an enjoyable activity, stopping it isn’t going to seem like something a child will want to do. We know as adults, that being disrupted abruptly while happily engaged isn’t pleasant and can be very annoying. Pile a terse request or demand on top of that and it becomes easy to see why our kids may choose not to respond at first.</p> <p>Tackling our yelling is an important part of raising happy, healthy children. Kids who are yelled at regularly, especially in a severe way, experience a profoundly negative impact on their wellbeing. There is of course a big difference between shouting and aggressively screaming at a child but the impact any kind of yelling has is food for thought.</p> <p>The best anti-yelling strategies are those that are practical and respectful. Here are 4 to try next time you’re temped to blow up:</p> <ol> <li><strong>Go to your children –</strong> Kids not responding to your words? Go to them. If you need their attention, walk to them and address them directly. You’d do it to a peer or partner so why not your children?</li> <li><strong>Consider timing –</strong> before making a request, consider what your child is doing. If possible, give a ‘5 minute call’ and let them know that in 5 minutes you’ll need them to stop what they are doing and do XYZ. This lays out your expectations and always for their own input.</li> <li><strong>Take a soft approach –</strong> If you’ve tried and failed to get the attention of your kids, try speaking softly. Kneel down on their level, take their hand, look into their eyes and ask if they’ve heard what you’ve been saying. If they haven’t, you can repeat the request and if they have, you can work together to help accomplish the request.</li> <li><strong>Use their names as a positive –</strong> We often address children by their names when they are ignoring us or doing something we deem to be inappropriate. Kids become so used to their names being used as a disciplinary measure that they’ll often tune out when they hear them. Try using their names in a positive sense and even trying some ‘yelling for good’ i.e. yelling out their name followed by an ‘I love you!’ or ‘great job.’</li> </ol> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><strong><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/home-garden/2016/01/dirty-home-items/">5 surprisingly dirty things in your house</a></span></em></strong></p> <p><strong><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/home-garden/2016/01/tips-to-iron-quicker/">Clever tips to cut ironing time in half</a></span></em></strong></p> <p><strong><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/home-garden/2015/12/9-nasty-things-you-really-should-throw-out-from-around-the-house/">9 nasty things you really should throw out NOW!</a></span></em></strong></p>

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