Splitting the caring of a loved one with siblings
Being a carer for a loved one is a rewarding job but it can sometimes become overwhelming. Here we’ve compiled some simple steps for you to follow if you’re looking to share the load with your sibling.
Regardless of the situation, when you’re a carer, looking after your own health and wellbeing is highly important. Remember, it’s always best to seek advice about your own health and that of the person you care for. It’s important to fully understand the severity of the issues of the person you care for and to consider whether or not in-home care or a nursing home is a better solution for everyone involved
Tips for sharing caring with siblings:
1. Communication
This is key to every healthy relationship. You must be able to discuss not only the health and wellbeing of the patient, but also your needs. It’s great to have a debrief and break down what’s needs, what’s involved and any areas you might want to improve on when it comes to the quality of life for the person you are caring for. It’s important that all parties contribute to communication and that you all note any changes that could benefit everyone in the future.
2. Honesty
As much as we all wish we could do everything, we are only human and sometimes enough is enough, we get sick, tired or run down. If there’s a time when you just need a break for the day, don’t feel guilty. It’s important to remember that by looking after yourself too and being honest, you are ensuring that this is a sustainable situation for yourself and everyone involved. Compromise, honest, communication and being flexible are key.
3. Compromise
In life we’ve always followed the rule that most things are tit for tat. You give what you get and you get what you give which is why it’s always good to give it your all because at the end of the day, if you do your best, someone will do their best for you. If you work days and someone else works nights, manage your time around that, make visits when the other person can’t or cook breakfast and they can prepare dinner. Take visits on the weekend if needed but make sure to manage your time with everyone else in order to get the best possible outcome for the patient and all carers.
4. Love
Nothing is more powerful than love. Use this power and strength as a tool to remind you that you’re all in this together. You’re drawn by someone you love and in return you provide them with the love they need to get through this. As long as you all work to support each other and know you’re making a positive difference to a loved one’s life, then most things will work themselves out.
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