The most important things to know when caring for someone with incontinence
Caring for someone with incontinence can be an emotionally difficult experience. If not handled properly it can become a cause of tension, prompting resentment and is often the final straw before nursing home arrangements are considered.
We’re going to look at four important things to consider when caring for someone with incontinence, and how to deal with these conflicts with empathy and understanding.
1. There might be some resistance
It’s not uncommon for the person you’re caring for to be resistant to having to use pads or protective underwear, even if they realise deep down it’s for their own good. So, don’t be surprised if these initial conversations are greeted with denial, anger and outright refusal to cooperated. Make sure you’re open and honest with your loved one in a manner that isn’t patronising, and this should make reality easier to accept.
2. It’s normal to feel embarrassed
A sense of embarrassment is normal for the caregiver and the care receiver, and it can be difficult to care for someone in such a personal, often invasive way. Acknowledge your uncomfortable feelings. Talking about these issues with supportive family members, friends and even professionals can be a helpful way to deal with your feelings.
3. Keep your reactions in check
Incontinence is one of those conditions where caregivers are not always at their best, especially if you’re providing care at inconvenient times. This is only intensified when a care receiver is not being cooperative. Pretending this is not an issue will only make it worse, as will taking it out on the person you’re caring for. Seek out support through friends or family with similar experience, support groups and even from other experienced professionals.
4. Make sure you’ve got a plan in place
Caring for someone with incontinence is difficult because it requires advanced planning, otherwise caregivers and care receivers can often become social isolated. To minimise the stress, prepare ahead of time with all the products you need. Failing to do so can add unnecessary stress to what already might be quite an unpleasant experience.
What are your thoughts? Have you ever had to care for someone with incontinence?