Bride in hot water after uninviting stepdad who paid for her wedding
A bride-to-be has caused a rift in her family after uninviting her stepdad from her wedding, despite the fact he paid for it.
Posting to the ‘Am I The A***hole’ Reddit forum, the bride wrote about the uncomfortable situation she found herself in just a few weeks out from her big day. Her brothers informed her that they would not be attending her wedding if their stepdad was also in attendance, forcing the bride to make an incredibly difficult decision.
The woman explained that she and her brothers went through a difficult time when their parents divorced and their mum subsequently remarried, with her brothers not wanting anything to do with their mum’s new husband. The bride, being five years younger than her brothers, lived with her mum and stepdad, however, and developed a good relationship with him.
She wrote, “My stepdad did what he could to help me out with school and everything, he even offered to fund my wedding which is going to be in five weeks time and I’m very grateful for that though this was his decision. I sent Dean and Kevin invitations but once they found out that our stepdad was going to be there, they said they might not come.
“They took time to think then gave me an ultimatum saying that if our stepdad is coming then they won’t be. I literally freaked out because I definitely want my brothers to be at my wedding so badly and I tried talking to them but they were being stubborn.”
After discussing the problem with her fiance, she came to the conclusion that she had no choice but to “politely uninvite” her stepdad, which she did via email. She continued, “Later I got a call from my mum yelling at me, calling me hurtful stuff saying I was acting like an ungrateful b**** by excluding her husband from the wedding after everything he’s done for me.
“I told her that my brothers threatened not to come which pushed me to make this difficult decision because if it was for me I’d have everyone there. She cussed me out for prioritising my hateful and cold-hearted brothers over my stepdad and showing him that I’m not worthy of his grace which was really really hurtful for me to hear.”
The woman was then left wondering whether she’d made the right decision, and the general consensus on Reddit was that she had. One commenter wrote, “Your stepdad obviously cares about you and is PAYING for your wedding. He is in no way the problem here. Your brothers are being childish and are the ones you can’t just get along to be there for their sister’s wedding without being petulant little babies about it.”
Another wrote, “Unless there’s more to this than meets the eye, they seem to have no legit reason for disliking your stepdad other than the fact that he is not your actual dad. He has been good to you, and I’m not surprised your mum is raging. I can’t imagine the hurt your stepdad must be feeling right now.”
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