Dating... what's next?
So, you’ve been on a few dates and visited each other’s homes, so while it might sound a little silly, do you feel like you’re in “relationship no-man’s land” or are you wondering if you are an item? This stage of dating can be tricky to navigate and awkward to openly talk about with the other person, but it is necessary that you do so. Here are some things to consider if you are at this stage.
Don’t be too scared to speak up
While nobody likes being rejected, you have to ask yourself: Are you too scared to talk about your relationship? Don’t settle for staying in your comfort zone because you're afraid that if you voice your thoughts that things will end. It’s best to take control and talk about what concerns you. After all, it is best not to waste your time or the other persons. You’re likely to be more disappointed if you put off important conversations, get to know the person well and then find out you are on different paths.
Don’t foster an unhealthy relationship
While we can all be insecure from time to time, don’t carry on your relationship thinking any of these things…
- You feel like the other person will dump you any minute.
- You’re convinced that you always get hurt in relationships, and it's safer to keep a would-be partner at arm's length.
- You don’t deserve to be treated with love, respect and care.
It’s common for people to give others a mirror image of how they treat themselves. So if you aren’t respecting yourself, someone else might not respect you back. If you are non-committal in your life, someone else might be non-committal towards you.
Don’t be a game player
Don’t let your relationship be ruled by things that go unsaid! The power to open up the lines of communication lies in your hands. If you are unable to do this, then there could be an underlying reason that you’ve ended up in this limbo game. Once you do open up, you’ll find out what’s really going on and have be able to decide what you want to do next.