Relationships
How healthy is your relationship?
All relationships have their moments but how healthy is your relationship? Recognising the signs of a healthy and happy relationship is as important as being alert to signs of a dysfunctional relationship. Whether you’re tentatively considering a new mate or in the throes of a new romance, do you agree with the following statement?
- You look forward to spending time with each other.
- You make each other laugh.
- You communicate openly and listen to one another.
- There is a strong foundation of trust in the relationship.
- You never belittle or demean each other in front of others or when you are alone.
- You respect each other’s views even if you do not necessarily share the same opinion.
- You feel relaxed and comfortable around each other. There is no need to pretend or impress.
- You both have your own personal identity.
- You argue, compromise and negotiate fairly. There are no power plays.
- You both enjoy doing things for each other without “keeping score”.
- You don’t try and fix or change.
- You can freely express your needs and wants with each other.
- There is a balance of giving and receiving in the relationship.
- Both are willing and can be vulnerable in the relationship.
- You both can enjoy alone time and know it isn’t a threat or a comment on the relationship.
- You both have realistic expectation about each other and from the relationship.
- You have discussed each other’s dreams, desires and hopes.
- You are both happy you have your own independent life with different friends and activities.
- You can talk openly about finances.
- You value what is important to each other whether it is family, hobbies or work.
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