6 phrases more important than “I love you”
Why do we enjoy hearing someone say “I love you” so much? Perhaps the idea of being seen as someone so special to your significant other is what makes us keep seeking out these three magic words. It is wonderful to feel as though someone appreciates us for all of our quirks. But is love alone enough to hold together a relationship?
In fact, there are other ways of expressing our love that are even more important than simply saying “I love you”…
1. “I forgive you”
It is important to be able to forgive your partner for all that they have done or may do in the future. Nobody is perfect and it’s possible that we all may experience a partner who lashes out, is forgetful, gets cranky or makes mistakes.
It is a powerful expression as it shows that you accept your partner for who they are, imperfections and all. It also helps if you can ask for and, accept, forgiveness when you make mistakes, which you inevitably will.
2. “I’ll sacrifice for you”
Being there for your loved one is as important years into a relationship as it is in the early days. Giving them your time when they need you, staying up late to chat through a problem even though you are tired, helping with their sick or frail parents who may not appreciate the effort that you put in.
3. “I respect you”
Respect your partner for who they are, and always try to be considerate of their feelings and opinions. Treat their hopes and dreams as though they are your own and this will show them how much you respect them as a person.
4. “I’ll support you”
Be someone that your partner can rely on, and always be on their side. Be the person that they can rely on to show up on time. Give them what they need – both physically and emotionally.
5. “I’ll protect you”
Protect them physically but also do your best to shield them from pain and hurt. Stand up for them when they need someone in their corner. Don’t put them down, just build them up.
6. “I’m committed to you”
Let them know that your relationship is important to you, and that you won’t walk away when things get tough. Be the one who will always show up when they say they will. Do what needs to be done to keep the partnership moving in the right direction.
Many people feel as though they don’t need to say or do these things and that their partner “just knows” how they feel.
But in fact being able to say more than just “I love you” could set you up for a longer and happier relationship that stands the test of time.
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