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Man slammed online after blaming wife for “embarrassing” state of house

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A man has been judged unworthy by the online community after complaining that his wife, a stay-at-home mother, didn’t clean the house well enough prior to the last-minute arrival of his guests.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The 36-year-old <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/s25jy2/aita_for_telling_my_wife_that_it_was_embarrassing/" target="_blank">took to Reddit’s ‘AmIthe**hole’ section</a> to ask whether he was in the wrong for telling his wife their house was “embarrassing” after inviting guests over at short notice.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">To provide some context, the man wrote that he was the breadwinner of the family, while his wife stayed home and looked after their three children, all of whom are under ten.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“My wife does her best to keep up with the cleaning and keeping the house tidy and I feel for her, I really do, so I told her she doesn’t have to clean up all the time since the kids are running up and down all day and making huge messes,” he wrote.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">He continued to say that the only caveat to their deal was that she had to ensure the house was clean when they had guests visiting, “and she agreed with me”.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Well, the other day I brought over some friends from work and when I opened the door all I could see was an utter mess, food and toys and clutter everywhere,” he recounted.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I was shocked, I was embarrassed and just mortified that my friends saw my home looking like this.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Also I have a couple of guys who came over for the first time so the first impression must’ve been horrible to them.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The man said he took his friends to the “least messy” part of the house, but they kept “making indirect comments about the state of the home” and giving him “weird looks” during their visit.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I was livid, I waited til they left then went into the bedroom to see that my wife was actually sleeping, I woke her up to ask why she didn’t tidy up the house knowing I was going to bring friends over,” he continued.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“She said she didn’t know but I sent her a text letting her know and she said she didn’t see it. I told her it seemed like she did see the text but decided to ignore it? She said no but she wasn’t feeling well and had a headache so she thought of getting an hour-long nap.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I told her that it was so, so embarrassing that the house looked like this when my friends came over and that this was avoidable had she cleaned up and prepared the house for the guests.” </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">His wife said the kids had caused the mess and that he should have double-checked with her about the guests visiting, which he said was blaming him for “her own actions (or lack of)”.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">He continued to say she was partly to blame for the house being “out of control” and in an “embarrassing” state.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">His wife then called him a “jerk” and left the room, and continued not to speak to him about the situation.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Many users were quick to share their judgement that he was in the wrong for multiple reasons.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">However, moderators were forced to lock the thread after commentors violated Reddit’s ‘Be Civil’ clause.</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 84.13461538461539px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7846873/reddit.png" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/c14c1dfebd0c4645bb1dafc6f07f8400" /></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Reddit thread was eventually locked to prevent more people from commenting after the site’s ‘Be Civil’ rule was violated multiple times.  Image: Reddit</span></em></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“You basically spring this upon her, didn’t check to see if she happened to see the one (1) text where you just casually decided to spontaneously bring home people </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">that day</span><span style="font-weight: 400;">, and showed literally zero care that she wasn’t feeling well,” one user wrote.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“SAHM stands for stay at home </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">mum,</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> not stay at home maid. Her priority is the children. Not to be on call to make the house look unrealistically tidy in an hour’s time.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The man later clarified that they usually communicate via text, and that it was unusual for her not to check her phone.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">"Even if she saw the text, who's to say that was enough time to do all the cleaning needed? Or that she didn't have another obstacle like being out of the house for the afternoon or being sick, like she was," another user said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">"[You're the a--hole] for assuming she generally has tons of time to clean while parenting, for giving her inadequate notice about guests, for telling her about guests, not asking if it was okay to have guests over, for not feeling any responsibility to help clean the house the night before if you're planning on asking people over and for generally treating her like your maid and not working to come up with other solutions to keep the house to your desired cleanliness."</span></p> <p><em>Image: Getty Images</em></p>

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Bride in hot water after uninviting stepdad who paid for her wedding

<p dir="ltr">A bride-to-be has caused a rift in her family after uninviting her stepdad from her wedding, despite the fact he paid for it.</p> <p dir="ltr">Posting to the ‘Am I The A***hole’ Reddit forum, the bride wrote about the uncomfortable situation she found herself in just a few weeks out from her big day. Her brothers informed her that they would not be attending her wedding if their stepdad was also in attendance, forcing the bride to make an incredibly difficult decision.</p> <p dir="ltr">The woman explained that she and her brothers went through a difficult time when their parents divorced and their mum subsequently remarried, with her brothers not wanting anything to do with their mum’s new husband. The bride, being five years younger than her brothers, lived with her mum and stepdad, however, and developed a good relationship with him.</p> <p dir="ltr">She wrote, “My stepdad did what he could to help me out with school and everything, he even offered to fund my wedding which is going to be in five weeks time and I’m very grateful for that though this was his decision. I sent Dean and Kevin invitations but once they found out that our stepdad was going to be there, they said they might not come.</p> <p dir="ltr">“They took time to think then gave me an ultimatum saying that if our stepdad is coming then they won’t be. I literally freaked out because I definitely want my brothers to be at my wedding so badly and I tried talking to them but they were being stubborn.”</p> <p dir="ltr">After discussing the problem with her fiance, she came to the conclusion that she had no choice but to “politely uninvite” her stepdad, which she did via email. She continued, “Later I got a call from my mum yelling at me, calling me hurtful stuff saying I was acting like an ungrateful b**** by excluding her husband from the wedding after everything he’s done for me.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I told her that my brothers threatened not to come which pushed me to make this difficult decision because if it was for me I’d have everyone there. She cussed me out for prioritising my hateful and cold-hearted brothers over my stepdad and showing him that I’m not worthy of his grace which was really really hurtful for me to hear.”</p> <p dir="ltr">The woman was then left wondering whether she’d made the right decision, and the general consensus on Reddit was that she had. One commenter wrote, “Your stepdad obviously cares about you and is PAYING for your wedding. He is in no way the problem here. Your brothers are being childish and are the ones you can’t just get along to be there for their sister’s wedding without being petulant little babies about it.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Another wrote, “Unless there’s more to this than meets the eye, they seem to have no legit reason for disliking your stepdad other than the fact that he is not your actual dad. He has been good to you, and I’m not surprised your mum is raging. I can’t imagine the hurt your stepdad must be feeling right now.”</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: quavondo</em></p> <p> </p>

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Woman "stuck" in the body of a child reveals dating problems

<p>A woman who says she is "stuck" in the body of a child has revealed the extraordinary measures she must take in the dating world. </p> <p>Shauna Rae measures 1.16m in height, making her the average height of an 8-year-old. </p> <p>However, the US woman is actually 22 years of age, and had her growth stunted by chemotherapy when she was young. </p> <p>In an interview with <a rel="noopener" href="https://people.com/tv/tlcs-shauna-rae-recalls-when-she-stopped-growing-at-age-16/" target="_blank">People</a> ahead of the release of her upcoming TV show <em>I am Shauna Rae</em>, Shauna said he has to take extra precautions when it comes to her dating life. </p> <p><span>“I have to have in-person conversations before we even think about going on a date. I have to know how this person reacts in public areas,” she said.</span></p> <p><span>“I have to know if they’re going to be able to deal with all the issues I have, because I can’t date someone unless they can take all of that on. And it’s a lot to ask someone to take on.”</span></p> <p><span>Despite her best efforts to meet her soulmate, Shauna said her "romantic life sucks".</span></p> <p><span>“I think I’ve dated like seven people. I attract creeps, a-holes – you know the typical ‘bad boy picture’ situation – and idiots,” she said.</span></p> <p><span>In the trailer for her new series, Shauna is seen meeting a man for a blind date, with the man thinking he is being pranked when she shows up. </span></p> <p><span>When Shauna was just six-months-old, she was diagnosed with a rare form of brain cancer and underwent chemotherapy treatment. </span></p> <p>“My pituitary gland was rendered almost dormant because of the chemotherapy,” Shauna says in the trailer.</p> <p>“The doctor told me I was done growing. My bones were fused, and my height is three feet and 10 inches (1.16m).”</p> <p>Shauna admitted to People that when she stopped growing at age 16, the revelation was "like a hammer crashing into glass".</p> <p>“It was a very difficult time,” she said.</p> <p>“It probably was the lowest time of my life, because I always imagined that I would be tall.”</p> <p>After spending time devoted to "bettering" herself, Shauna has learned to look on the bright side of life, and has come to terms with her size. </p> <p><span>“Being positive is just the best advice I can give, because at the end of the day, the only person that controls how you feel is yourself,” she said.</span></p> <p><span>Check out the trailer for <em>I Am Shauna Rae</em> here. </span></p> <p><iframe width="560" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/s7In-KGxduU" title="YouTube video player" frameborder="0" allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture" allowfullscreen=""></iframe></p> <p><em>Image credits: Youtube</em></p>

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Another sexist biological hypothesis debunked

<p>For over a century, the idea of ‘<a rel="noopener" href="https://www.pnas.org/content/118/23/e2026112118" target="_blank">greater male variability</a>’ has been used by some biologists to explain why there are more male CEOs and political leaders than female, among other things. But a <a rel="noreferrer noopener" href="https://doi.org/10.1111/brv.12818" target="_blank">meta-analysis</a> in <em>Biological Reviews</em> has challenged this idea, finding that, in animals, greater male variability doesn’t seem to exist at all.</p> <p>“It’s easier to think of variability as like a spectrum or range,” explains lead author Lauren Harrison, a PhD student in biology at the Australian National University.</p> <p>“If you think about personalities, for example, we all fall somewhere along a spectrum that ranges from very introverted at one end, to very extroverted at the other. And so, variability is a measure of how spread out our values are altogether.”</p> <p>In 1871, Charles Darwin suggested that, in general, male animals had more variability in their traits than female animals, possibly because of sexual selection.</p> <p>The idea was almost immediately adopted by some scientists and non-scientists to explain that, because males were more variable than females, there must therefore be more ‘exceptional’ men, justifying their superior role in society. The concept has never been without its challengers, particularly among female scientists, but it’s remained pervasive.</p> <p>Harrison, along with colleagues at ANU, went looking for evidence of this hypothesis. She examined over 10,000 published papers from database searches on the topic, eventually narrowing the field down to 204 relevant studies on animal behaviour, covering 220 species (but not humans).</p> <p>Simply finding these 204 relevant studies was an effort. “I think it took me the better part of three months,” says Harrison. “And that was all that I was doing.”</p> <p>Once these papers were collected, the researchers used their data to examine five key behavioural traits in animals: boldness, aggressiveness, exploration, sociability and activity.</p> <div class="newsletter-box"> <div id="wpcf7-f6-p178706-o1" class="wpcf7"> <p style="display: none !important;"> </p> <!-- Chimpmail extension by Renzo Johnson --></div> </div> <p>And their results? “We found no evidence of greater male variability,” says Harrison.</p> <p>“So really, is it as general as we think? No, it’s not. So maybe it is easier to disprove than we think.”</p> <p>While their research didn’t include humans, Harrison says they’d be surprised to find the results differed there.</p> <p>“Our species covered things from dolphins to little beetles and everything in between. Fish, reptiles, birds, and even primates.</p> <p>“Finding no greater male variability across such a broad number of species shows that, well, in animals, we don’t really see this trend. So if we do see a trend in humans, maybe we need to ask ourselves why we’re so different – what would be causing these differences between men and women?”</p> <p>Current research on human variability hasn’t yielded heaps of evidence for this trend.</p> <p>“It’s all quite conflicting,” says Harrison.</p> <p>“Sometimes they find greater female variability [in humans], greater male variability or no differences. So I wouldn’t really say it’s a very well proven hypothesis at all.”</p> <p>She adds that this research is another indicator that social differences between men and women are more likely to have <a rel="noreferrer noopener" href="https://cosmosmagazine.com/people/culture/gender-stereotypes-stem-girls-participation/" target="_blank">cultural</a>, than biological, origins.</p> <p>“Instead of using biology to explain why there are more male CEOs or professors, we have to ask what role culture and upbringing play in pushing men and women down different pathways.”</p> <!-- Start of tracking content syndication. Please do not remove this section as it allows us to keep track of republished articles --> <p><img id="cosmos-post-tracker" style="opacity: 0; height: 1px!important; width: 1px!important; border: 0!important; position: absolute!important; z-index: -1!important;" src="https://syndication.cosmosmagazine.com/?id=178706&amp;title=Greater+Male+Variability+hypothesis+challenged" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></p> <!-- End of tracking content syndication --> <div id="contributors"> <p><em><a rel="noopener" href="https://cosmosmagazine.com/science/biology/greater-male-variability-hypothesis-challenged-in-new-meta-study/" target="_blank">This article</a> was originally published on <a rel="noopener" href="https://cosmosmagazine.com" target="_blank">Cosmos Magazine</a> and was written by <a rel="noopener" href="https://cosmosmagazine.com/contributor/ellen-phiddian" target="_blank">Ellen Phiddian</a>. Ellen Phiddian is a science journalist at Cosmos. She has a BSc (Honours) in chemistry and science communication, and an MSc in science communication, both from the Australian National University.</em></p> <p><em>Image: Getty Images</em></p> </div>

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Jessica Rowe celebrates wedding anniversary in typical "Crap Housewife" fashion

<p><em>Image: Instagram / Getty</em></p> <p>Jessica Rowe has marked her wedding anniversary with Peter Overton with a sweet tribute, sharing the unconventional way the couple celebrated the occasion.</p> <p>The former<span> </span><em>Studio 10</em><span> </span>host took to Instagram to share their special day with the followers.</p> <p>Along with a photo of the Crap Housewife creator in her kitchen with her husband, Jess wrote: "18 years ago today I made the best decision of my life- marrying this darling man! And today we ‘celebrated’ by scrubbing the fridge for our move! (actually Pete did the scrubbing while I carried on like a pork chop!) #craphousewife #weddinganniversary #18years #luckywife #peteishandywithascrubbingbrush."</p> <p>The couple soon received well wishes in the comments.</p> <p>Journalist Sarah Harris shared a bunch of heart emojis, while actor Suzan Mutesi penned: "Happy anniversary @jessjrowe !! Love you guys so much! ❤️❤️."</p> <p>Jess and Peter first met when she was just 19 and doing university work experience at Channel Ten. At the time, Peter was a sports reporter.</p> <p>Years later, when Jess was an established journalist, the pair bumped into each other at the<span> </span><em>TV WEEK</em><span> </span>Logies.</p> <p>They got to talking and Jess later told Mia Freedman's No Filter podcast that at the time she was thinking: "Why can't I meet a nice man like this? Why am I not attracting really good decent people like this beautiful man?"</p> <p>After breaking up with her boyfriend, she was chatting to her friend, rugby league reporter Tony Peters, about her desire for a nice guy and mentioned Peter's name.</p> <p>Tony then rung up Peter and convinced him to ask Jess out.</p> <p>Newly divorced and having just started a job at<span> </span><em>60 Minutes</em>, Peter wasn't really looking to date anyone but decided he'd give it a shot.</p> <p>"I said, 'Well if she rings me within 10 minutes and asks me out, I'll go,'" Peter told Nine Honey.</p> <p>"And she rang. And I said, 'I like your style.'</p> <p>"We went out on a Sunday night to a Thai restaurant in Balmain. That was in June 2001 and we've never been apart."</p> <p>The pair have been married since 2004 and share two daughters, Allegra and Giselle.</p>

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Fresh heartache for Queen after third death in a month

<p><em>Image: Getty </em></p> <p>The Queen is mourning the loss of a close friend, the third to die in the span of a month.</p> <p>Racing journalist, trainer and author, Ivor Herbert, passed away aged 96 on January 5.</p> <p>British media reports Herbert was a longtime friend of the monarch and was a regular visitor to the Queen's Balmoral estate in Scotland.</p> <p>He also trained the winning horse of the 1957 Cheltenham Gold Cup and collaborated with Princess Anne on her 1991 book<span> </span><em>Riding Through My Life</em>.</p> <p>Herbert is the third close friend of the Queen to pass away in just over a month.</p> <p>Only four days after Christmas, Her Majesty's Lady-in-Waiting Lady Diana Farnham died aged 90.</p> <p>Lady Farnham served as the Queen's Lady of Bedchamber since 1987, and also attended events during the 2012 Diamond Jubilee service, when Prince Philip was unable to be there due to illness</p> <p>"It is very sad for the Queen," a royal source told The Telegraph "Everyone loved Lady Farnham, she was always so good humoured.</p> <p>"She was also a very glamorous and attractive woman. She was always very generous to new people joining the household.</p> <p>"It has not been a good year for the Queen — losing her husband and then the Duchess of Grafton and now Lady Farnham.</p> <p>"They were dear friends who supported the Queen on official duties."</p> <p>On December 5, the Queen lost her close confidant the Dowager Duchess of Grafton. The duchess was the second Mistress of the Robes of the Queen's reign and the most senior of the Queen's ladies-in-waiting.</p> <p>She and the Queen formed a close bond over the years and the duchess was by Her Majesty's side at countless official events and overseas royal tours.</p> <p>The Duchess of Grafton was appointed the Dame Grand Cross of the Royal Victorian Order in 1980, an honour given by the monarch for services to the sovereign.</p> <p>The Queen became godmother to the duchess' second daughter in 1954.</p> <p>The loss of the Queen's close friends so closely together is surely another blow to what already has been a trying 12 months for the British royal family following the death of Prince Phillip, Prince Andrew's ongoing legal battles, Prince Harry and Meghan's verbal attacks against the family and her own health battles.</p>

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Warnie's frank divorce confession on live TV

<p>Cricket legend Shane Warne has opened up about his divorce from ex-wife Simone Callahan in 2005.</p> <p>After being married for a decade, the pair split in what Warnie described as the "lowest time in his life".</p> <p>He made the admission during a rain delay from the Ashes commentary box on Sunday, discussing how he was going through the pressure of his marriage breakdown during his own Ashes series. </p> <p>“Getting divorced was a difficult time in my life and for my children — and it was my fault,’’ Warne said on Fox Cricket.</p> <p>“So I have to live with that for the rest of my life so it wasn’t easy."</p> <p>“A week before the Ashes series to do that, and then have to drag myself off the canvas and get out there and play in 2005, play against a quality England side … to have the Barmy Army for six hours a day, not just 10 minutes, singing songs, singing ‘where’s your missus gone?'"</p> <p>“I’m sitting there worrying about my children that I was hoping I was going to spend three months of the Ashes series with, but because of my own doing they had to turn around and find a flight so I was pretty devastated with that."</p> <p>“That was the lowest point in my life and then I had to go out and play an Ashes series so that was really tough.”</p> <p>Shane also went on to describe how much of an impact the paparazzi and fame have impacted both his and his children's lives. </p> <p><span>“Some people think I court that. The other day I was sitting on my balcony and I get papped with my shirt off … I said are you serious, I’ve got my big fat guts out on the balcony.”</span></p> <p><span>Despite the downsides of fame, Warnie still claims he is grateful for everything his fans have given him. </span></p> <p><span>He said, “I’ve been very, very lucky in my life. I’m very grateful for the life I’ve had."</span></p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p>

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Voicemail and a car crash: How Tiger Woods’ cheating scandal emerged

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Despite becoming the first athlete to make $USD 1 billion in 2009, it was also the year that saw Tiger Woods’ life crumble around him as </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://honey.nine.com.au/latest/tiger-woods-cheating-scandal-details-elin-nordegren-what-happened-explainer/b93a94da-8d22-4398-a9d3-2c4d58a26c11" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">it was revealed</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> he had been cheating on his wife Elin Nordegren with multiple women.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In November of that year, tabloids reported on Woods’ affair with nightclub manager Rachel Uchitel. Several days later, he crashed his car outside his Florida mansion at 2am, with rumours emerging that he had tried to flee after being confronted by Nordegren.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Following the news of his crash, reports of his infidelity continued to surface from a number of women.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Some outlets also reported that Nordegren made the discovery while looking at Woods’ phone.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A voicemail allegedly left by Woods for one of the women he was seeing was later published by </span><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">US Weekly</span></em><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Hey, it’s Tiger,” a man said in the message. “I need you to do me a huge favour. Can you please take your name off your phone? My wife went through my phone and may be calling you.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Though Woods initially denied the claims, he later admitted they were true and apologised.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Over the next few months, women continued to come forward with claims of sleeping with Woods during his eight-year relationship with Nordegren.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">He would go on to speak about the situation and share new details at a press conference several months later.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I was unfaithful, I had affairs and I cheated. What I did was unacceptable,” he said at the time.</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"><br /></span><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I hurt my wife, my kids, my mother, my wife’s family, my friends, my foundation and kids all around the world who admired me.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A year later, Woods and Nordegren announced they would be getting a divorce.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">According to </span><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Daily Beast</span></em><span style="font-weight: 400;">, the couple had a prenuptial agreement that would see Nordegren receive $20 million after 10 years of marriage.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Though Woods allegedly tried to negotiate their existing prenup to get Nordegren to stay – allegedly including an immediate $5 million payment and an added $55 million to the original value - the divorce was finalised. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">According to TMZ, she received $USD 100 million ($AUD 129 million or $NZD 106 million).</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Despite their marriage ending, Woods and Nordegren have maintained a good relationship.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The former couple share two children: Sam Alexis, 14, and Charlie Axel, 12.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We communicate so much better now, it’s incredible,” Woods told </span><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">US Weekly</span></em><span style="font-weight: 400;"> in 2019. “I wish we would have done that earlier on, but it’s been incredible to have a best friend like that.”</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: Getty Images</span></em></p>

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The four-letter word that can end any fight – no, not THAT word!

<p><span>It’s a familiar scene: An argument with your partner heats up, and old grudges start sneaking into the conversation. Your partner lashes out, bringing up that one thing that really pushes your buttons. Now you’ve gone from miffed to deeply insulted. Before lashing back out with your own cutting comment, though, respond with one simple word.</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7846685/fight1.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/024c7bdc7f4a46de81bfd5680e86af46" /></p> <p><em>Image: Reader's Digest</em></p> <p>Unlike using phrases that make arguments worse, saying “ouch” could put a heated fight on ice, says marriage and family therapist Hal Runkel.</p> <p>Your significant other probably knows you better than anyone else, including knowing the trigger words that cut deep. No doubt your partner still loves you, but the heat of the moment is bringing out words you’ll both regret later. That’s why you need to signal your partner that the conversation is getting nasty. Say: “Ouch. That one hurt. I don’t know if you were meaning to hurt me; I don’t know if that’s what you were going for; but that’s what you did,” Runkel tells Business Insider Australia.</p> <p>That simple word will make your partner – and you – pause before doling out more mean words. With a wake-up call that the argument could cause lasting damage, you can refresh back to the core issue.</p> <p>“That conversation – which was a very familiar path, that fight – is now a totally different path because one of you chose to actually get vulnerable,” Runkel says. “I am open enough to you that you can actually hurt me. So now how about we talk to each other as if we actually love each other?”</p> <p>Now that you remember how much words hurt and how much the relationship means to you, you can both move forward calmly.</p> <p>In a particularly fiery fight, there’s a good chance your partner will be able to whip out plenty of examples of harsh things you’ve said, too. Denying or glossing over that won’t solve anything, so acknowledge you hurt your partner and calmly apologise, says Runkel.</p> <p>If it doesn’t work and your partner continues being cruel, that dialogue could say a lot about the relationship. But you won’t know until you try making the change yourself.</p> <p><em><span>Written by Marissa Laliberte. This article first appeared in </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/relationships/the-four-letter-word-that-can-end-any-fight-no-not-that-word" target="_blank"><span>Reader’s Digest</span></a><span>. For more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, </span><a rel="noopener" href="http://readersdigest.innovations.com.au/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRA87V" target="_blank"><span>here’s our best subscription offer.</span></a></em></p> <p><em><span>Image: Getty Images</span></em></p> <p><img style="width: 100px !important; height: 100px !important;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7820640/1.png" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/f30947086c8e47b89cb076eb5bb9b3e2" /></p>

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Muslim bachelor uses billboard ads to find a wife

<p>Muhammad Malik has come up with a unique way to meet a potential partner. </p> <p>The London-based 29-year-old has plastered his face on billboards across England in an unorthodox bid to "save him from an arranged marriage".</p> <p>The series of billboards show the eligible bachelor laying on the ground with a link to his website, called <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.findmalikawife.com" target="_blank">findmalikawife.com</a>.</p> <p>His website gives potential suitors a look into his life, career, and special interests, as well as what he is looking for in a partner. </p> <p>In Mailk's words, he is looking for, "<span>a Muslim woman in her 20s, who's striving to better her deen. I'm open to any ethnicity but I've got a loud Punjabi family - so you'd need to keep with the bants."</span><br /><span>"Always personality and faith over anything else!"</span></p> <p><span>The free-spirited Malik insists he isn't against arranged marriages, but he "just wanted to try and find someone on my own first."</span></p> <p><span>Speaking to BBC's Asian Network, Malik said he became tired of using dating apps, saying they lack a real connection. </span></p> <p class="mol-para-with-font">"It takes a lot of energy swiping left and right, and you almost become immune or this robot," he said.  </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font">"There's that lack of ethereal human connection when we're talking about the online space." </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font">When asked why he went to such extreme lengths with the billboards, he said, "Probably because of my personality."</p> <p class="mol-para-with-font">"I'm a creative and I love doing the most random and absurd things - as long as they are 100 per cent halal of course."</p> <p class="mol-para-with-font">"Traditional methods such as 'rishta aunties' didn't work for me so thought why not take it to the billboards."</p> <p class="mol-para-with-font">Since the billboards have been up since New Years Day, Malik said he has got hundreds of responses, and has enlisted the help of his friends to go through the potential partners. </p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"><span>He said, "It's early days but responses thus far have been in the triple digits and from some really lovely people - keep them coming. I'm hoping to get in touch with women I like soon."</span></p> <p class="mol-para-with-font"><em>Image credits: Twitter @findmailkawife</em></p>

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Woman’s investigation after finding a tampon in her boyfriend’s room goes viral

<p dir="ltr">A young woman on TikTok has gone viral after sharing the story of her investigation into the owner of an unused tampon in her boyfriend’s bedroom.</p> <p dir="ltr">Lois Sanders posted about finding a tampon and mascara underneath her boyfriend’s wardrobe, saying, “There's a tampon and a mascara under Finn's wardrobe and he's in denial that he's had a girl here.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I'm not even joking it's right there. There's not enough dust on it to be old.” The video shows Sanders peering underneath the wardrobe as her boyfriend looks on.</p> <div class="embed"><iframe class="embedly-embed" src="https://cdn.embedly.com/widgets/media.html?src=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2Fembed%2Fv2%2F7048770314427321606&amp;display_name=tiktok&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40loissa4%2Fvideo%2F7048770314427321606&amp;image=https%3A%2F%2Fp16-sign-va.tiktokcdn.com%2Ftos-maliva-p-0068%2F9db72124f4af437c8fd396e428c3c286_1641169731%7Etplv-tiktok-play.jpeg%3Fx-expires%3D1641369600%26x-signature%3DHh2C1oIXwBsybGaXBkxdn%252BLTy90%253D&amp;key=59e3ae3acaa649a5a98672932445e203&amp;type=text%2Fhtml&amp;schema=tiktok" width="340" height="700" scrolling="no" title="tiktok embed" frameborder="0" allow="autoplay; fullscreen" allowfullscreen="true"></iframe></div> <p dir="ltr">Determined to find out where the tampon came from and when it had rolled under the wardrobe, Sanders emailed Tampax with the product code, and to her surprise, they quickly responded, informing her that the product was made on December 11, 2019.</p> <p dir="ltr">She later took to TikTok to clear things up, explaining that it was her first time in his university accommodation and she wasn’t just there to have a snoop. “He was facing the wardrobe and then I went backwards upside down and I could see under the wardrobe and I was like ‘what the hell is that?’,” she said in the video.</p> <p dir="ltr">Sanders also explained that the pair weren’t officially together at that point and had just been talking for a few months, but she “wanted to make sure everything was fine”. Finn, her boyfriend, explained that being a university house, girls had lived in the room before he moved in.</p> <p dir="ltr">Ending on a happy note, Sanders said, “To this day, we’ll never know. He says it wasn’t him and I believe him and we actually are together to this day so very happy ending actually.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Many people were quick to praise Sanders for her investigative work, while others were taken aback by the “crazy behaviour” she exhibited. One commenter summarised how many were feeling when they wrote, ”I’m not sure if this is genius or borderline psycho”.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: TikTok</em></p>

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Prince Charles says he’s ‘proud’ of Prince Harry

<p dir="ltr">Prince Charles has described feeling proud of his sons, Princes William and Harry, for their role in recognising the threat posed by climate change. The essay seems particularly surprising given how frosty relations have been between Prince Harry, his wife Meghan Markle, and the rest of the royal family in recent years.</p> <p dir="ltr">The 73-year-old heir to the British throne wrote a lengthy essay for<span> </span><em>Newsweek,<span> </span></em>urging global leaders to come together and address the growing threat of climate change. In the essay, Charles mentions the work both of his sons have done to advocate for action on climate change, writing, “The scale and scope of the threat calls for regional and global solutions that will require the active participation of every sector of industry, in every country around the world. As a father, I am proud that my sons have recognised this threat.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Most recently, my elder son, William, launched the prestigious Earthshot Prize to incentivise change and help repair our planet over the next ten years by identifying and investing in the technologies that can make a difference.</p> <p dir="ltr">“And my younger son, Harry, has passionately highlighted the impact of climate change, especially in relation to Africa, and committed his charity to being net zero.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Charles continued, “The time is now. The eyes of our children and grandchildren are judging us. Let ours be the generation that can. And does. As we enter a new year, there is not a moment to lose.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Recent reports have suggested that Harry, his brother and his father have “barely spoken” in recent months, following Harry and Meghan’s resignation from royal duties and move to California in early 2020.</p> <p dir="ltr">In an interview with Oprah, the couple described feeling hurt by comments made about their son Archie before his birth, speculating as to what his skin tone would be. It was alleged in a recent book that Charles was the family member who made those comments, with Harry revealing that their relationship was strained.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Samir Hussein/WireImage</em></p> <p> </p>

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Ash Barty reveals why she kept her engagement a secret

<p dir="ltr">In a recent interview with the<span> </span><em>Courier Mail,<span> </span></em>25-year-old tennis superstar Ash Barty spoke about how her fiancé proposed, and how she contemplated not revealing the engagement to the public at all.</p> <p dir="ltr">Barty described the couple’s low-key engagement, with 29-year-old Garry Kissick proposing while the couple were at home, sitting on the couch. She said, “Garry and I have been together for a long time now and I had designed the ring with him.</p> <p dir="ltr">“We are obviously excited now for the next chapter. We were at home on the couch with the puppies. It was very much just us. It was perfect for us. Everyone has their unique way of doing it.”</p> <p dir="ltr">As for why the couple waited a week before announcing the happy news, Barty explained that they just wanted time to inform their close friends. She also revealed that there was a moment when she questioned whether she would publicly announce the engagement at all.</p> <p dir="ltr">Of the proposal, Barty said, “It was perfectly suited to us. That's just me and who I am and who we are together.”</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CWnDVdFBDJ_/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CWnDVdFBDJ_/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Ash Barty (@ashbarty)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p dir="ltr">The couple<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://oversixty.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/future-husband-ash-barty-s-sweet-announcement" target="_blank">announced their engagement on Instagram late last month</a>, with Barty uploading a photo of the pair beaming, her hand with engagement ring visible placed lovingly on Kissick’s chest. Her caption simply read, ‘Future Husband’, while his said, ‘15/11/2021. I love you @ashbarty’.</p> <p dir="ltr">The couple met at the Brookwater Golf and Country Club in Queensland in 2016 while playing golf – the same venue where Barty would go on to win a championship over four years later.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Matthew Stockman/Getty Images</em></p>

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Cameron Daddo on the best marriage advice he’s received

<p dir="ltr">Cameron Daddo and wife Alison Brahe appeared on a podcast together this week, and together shared some of the best advice they’ve received during their 30-year marriage.</p> <p dir="ltr">Appearing on Nova’s Separate Bathrooms podcast, during a segment titled ‘30 Lessons in 30 Years’, the beloved couple opened up about their lengthy marriage and what advice has and hasn’t worked for them.</p> <p dir="ltr">One piece of advice that Daddo considers paramount is “learn how to apologise”. Struggling to hold back tears, Daddo explained, "We were told by Reverend Brian that married us. He said you're going to hurt your partner the most of anyone in your life. In my case, it's probably true.</p> <p dir="ltr">"So it's a good idea to learn how to apologise, mean it and then make the necessary actions, so you don't repeat it. That's a good lesson."</p> <p dir="ltr">Brahe said that being able to have difficult conversations has done wonders for their relationship. She elaborated, "My next one is have the hard conversations, particularly the ones about the relationship. And that's what's worked for us.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Having those hard conversations is a little bit like labour and birth, where you go, 'Oh, it's just agonising to have this. Where's this guy?' We keep pushing through, and guaranteed we've always come out the other side feeling better."</p> <p dir="ltr">Daddo confessed that those conversations often leave him exhausted, but that they were important for any relationship to move forward. "There needs to be action after the hard conversations. Because if you're just having hard conversations and then not doing anything afterwards, they become harder the next time.</p> <p dir="ltr">“We've had this conversation and nothing happened. So just I think an addendum to that is have the hard conversations and then take action based on what you resolve or where you get to afterwards,” he said.</p> <p dir="ltr">The couple got married in 1991 after dating for just three months, and have three children together: daughters Lotus and Bodhi, and son River. They’ve been through their share of ups and downs, with Daddo admitting to having an affair in 1994. Fortunately, the lessons they’ve learned helped them come through the other side with their relationship intact.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: El Pics/Getty Images</em></p>

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Federer’s children “had no idea” he was a tennis champ until recently

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Though Roger Federer may be considered the greatest tennis player of all time, his four kids </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://honey.nine.com.au/parenting/roger-federer-reveals-his-kids-had-no-idea-he-was-a-tennis-champion/08f55e0e-dada-49b2-9d2b-a102e5694ecf" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">had no idea</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> about his fame until recently.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The champion player recently revealed that his kids “didn’t know” about his success in tennis, and “don’t care” about it.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The usually private Federer spoke about his family life in an interview with Ringier, including how he told his kids what he did for work and his struggles getting them to be interested in the sport.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“My victories have never been an important topic at home,” he said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Federer shares two sets of twins with his wife Mirka: 12-year-old girls Myla and Charlene, and seven-year-old boys Leo and Lenny.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Though Mirka has often been spotted matchside cheering her husband on, their kids have only appeared a handful of times - which may be contributing to their lack of knowledge around their dad’s success.</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height:281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7846484/federer-kids1.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/880b789ad05e4064afe34263e298c3f9" /></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Mirka Federer with all four of her kids watching their dad play in the 2019 Wimbledon Men’s Singles Final. Image: Getty Images</span></em></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“For a long time, my four children had no idea what I had achieved during my tennis career,” he said in the interview.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">But when they did find out through their friends, he said they were “literally speechless”, despite their lack of interest in playing tennis for themselves.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I have tried to promote tennis at my household with playing a lot of matches against Rafa, Novak and everybody but my kids don’t care,” he shared. “They need daddy home from the practice or from the matches.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“You see very quickly if kids like to play with the ball or go running outside. I think you see the differences very quickly.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Federer recently announced he would miss next year’s Australian Open, as he recovers from knee surgery.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The 40-year-old had two knee operations in 2020 which have majorly impacted his playing, but he says he is more concerned about day-to-day life.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I had this operation done so that I could ski with my children or play football or tennis in the future,” he said. “My primary motivation was to get back in shape for my normal life.”</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Images: @rogerfederer (Instagram) / Getty Images</span></em></p>

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Woman horrified to find who’s hoodie she wore for a whole week

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A UK woman </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://honey.nine.com.au/latest/woman-wearing-boyfriends-hoodie-twitter-builder/8bc46bce-a3ad-47a4-b01d-98b4e7de608d" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">has shared</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> an awkward experience online, after she discovered an item of clothing she had been wearing didn’t belong to her boyfriend, but to someone else entirely.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Comedian Fern Brady tweeted about the experience, saying she had been “wearing my boyfriend’s hoodie around the house for the last week” - yet was told it wasn’t his when she tried to give it back.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">She soon came to the realisation that she had picked up a hoodie belonging to a builder working at their home.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Realised with horror I’ve been wearing our builder’s hoodie,” she wrote. “In front of the builder.”</span></p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr">I've been wearing my boyfriend's hoodie around the house for the last week. I tried to give it back last night. <br />"That's not my hoodie." Realised with horror I've been wearing our builder's hoodie. In front of the builder.</p> — Fern Brady (@FernBrady) <a href="https://twitter.com/FernBrady/status/1465449354425159688?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">November 29, 2021</a></blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">She later tweeted: “I had a little sleep in it at one point. Came out of my room. Said good morning to the builder. Wearing his clothes.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">After realising her mistake, Brady said she threw the hoodie into the room the builder was working on, later finding it had been placed in their living room.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“What does it mean? Am I going out with the builder now?” she wrote in a follow-up tweet.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“He’s pretty old.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Hundreds of people have since commented on her post, with many sharing similar stories.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“When I was a kid we had a painter doing some inside painting. He wore inside trainers while painting and when he finished he couldn’t find his outside shoes. My dad went down to the pub wearing the painters shoes,” one person recounted.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">One woman recalled leaving a note for her dad which read: “Thank you, love you x” after he stayed at her house to let a carpenter in while she was at work.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“He didn’t move the note when he left the carpenter to do the work. The carpenter wrote back…”</span></p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr">Sorry... Didn't realise you were all so invested in this...<br />Have found the photos of the original note.<br />I was initially relieved. Then slightly offended. He didn't even acknowledge it. <a href="https://t.co/irWiIgRSIg">pic.twitter.com/irWiIgRSIg</a></p> — Holly Harwood (@hollylharwood) <a href="https://twitter.com/hollylharwood/status/1465631942196539396?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">November 30, 2021</a></blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Hi Holly. Left you what’s left of the stain if you need to touch up at any point! Sam. Nice Biscuits.”</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: Getty Images</span></em></p>

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Man destroys girlfriend’s family heirloom, doesn’t understand why she’s upset

<p dir="ltr">A man has been left scratching his head after online commentators tore him to shreds for destroying a family heirloom belonging to his girlfriend.</p> <p dir="ltr">The man posted to Reddit’s ‘Am I the A******’ forum, where people go to ask strangers to adjudicate their interpersonal disputes, deciding who was in the wrong in any given situation.</p> <p dir="ltr">This man wanted to propose to his girlfriend using a ring that had sentimental value, so when he found out that her late grandmother had left her a ring, he decided to remove a diamond from the ring and use that in a new engagement ring.</p> <p dir="ltr">Unfortunately, when he proposed with the new ring, the girlfriend hated it. Her grandmother had only recently passed away in September, and the pair were close as she was her only granddaughter.</p> <p dir="ltr">The man asked his girlfriend’s mother if she thought his idea was a good one, and the mother said that as much as she loved the idea, she didn’t know if her daughter would, and told him to think about it.</p> <p dir="ltr">Despite this caution, he went ahead with his plan, as he “couldn’t find anything else [he] liked as much”. He said that the resulting ring was beautiful, and he thought she would love the sentiment of it.</p> <p dir="ltr">When he proposed and she immediately accepted, he was thrilled, until she saw the ring and her reaction changed. He wrote, “She told me I’d practically vandalized and ruined the only meaningful thing of her grandmothers that she had and that I should have asked. I went to her mom for support, but she just kept saying she warned me that my girlfriend might not like the idea. She said yes to my proposal but refuses to wear the ring, which I just think is disrespectful considering how much money and thought went into it.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Commenters were quick to side with the now-fiancée, with one writing “YOU DESTROYED her one family heirloom! You were disrespectful and STOLE her property and then had it destroyed,” while another wrote, “This dude deserves no sympathy, and I cannot even believe he can even question whether he’s wrong,” and several users suggested she dump him.</p> <p dir="ltr">The best laid plans of mice and men…</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Tetra Images/Jamie Grill</em></p>

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"This will never see the light of day": Ardern reacts to hen's do gift

<p dir="ltr">Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern has received a gift ahead of her wedding this summer - but it didn’t go down as well as expected.</p> <p dir="ltr">During her last interview on TVNZ’s Breakfast show for the year, Ardern was given a gift by the radio team.</p> <p dir="ltr">As she opened it, host John Campbell hinted that it was something she could use for her hen’s party, if she had one.</p> <p dir="ltr"><img style="width: 500px; height:281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7846308/jacinda1.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/77990a9e4dac428ab2c6b622fe07565a" /></p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: TVNZ</em></p> <p dir="ltr">“Wow, this could be any manner of distasteful gifts,” she<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/jacinda-ardern-wedding-prime-minister-reacts-to-hens-do-gifts-from-tvnz-breakfast-team/P47M6WXW45PY33WPGB7CVSJIAM/" target="_blank">joked</a><span> </span>in response.</p> <p dir="ltr">She then pulled out a sparkly headband with the word “bride” written across it in cursive text, along with a bridal sash and a bottle of wine.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Aw, thank you guys. I can promise you, this will never see the light of day,” she said, laughing, while holding up the headband.</p> <p dir="ltr"><img style="width: 500px; height:277.08333333333337px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7846307/jacinda2.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/b7cc087e4a0e4e4288cb0c5fc7065149" /></p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: TVNZ</em></p> <p dir="ltr">Ardern wasn’t the only one to receive a gift either, with the breakfast team receiving mugs designed by the prime minister herself.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Self portrait, 2021,” the mugs said, along with a shocked-looking emoji face that Ardern said was her “most-used emoji”.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Just in case it is not completely obvious, I did draw those myself,” she<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://au.news.yahoo.com/jacinda-ardern-response-tvnz-gift-before-wedding-021408942.html" target="_blank">said</a><span> </span>seriously before laughing.</p> <p dir="ltr">The Prime Minister is due to marry Clarke Gayford in Gisborne, on New Zealand’s North Island.</p> <p dir="ltr">When asked about her wedding plans by radio station ZM earlier this month, Ardern said “you’d have to ask Clarke, he’s in charge”.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I said to someone I do really think I’m the least engaged bride. I know the big stuff, but he’s really doing the lot.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Earlier in the year, she admitted that she won’t be taking time off to go on a honeymoon with Gayford, noting that it was her choice to get married while leading the country.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I guess it’s my choice, for having major life events while in this job. So, no one’s fault except my own. No complaints from us,” she said.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: TVNZ</em></p>

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This woman went on 1000 dates to find her perfect match

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">One woman has undergone a Herculean effort to find “The One”, and has managed to find them in a surprising way.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Anna Swoboda, originally from Poland but now living in Sydney, entered the online dating world when she was 22, after she was convinced she would find her one true love.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I have always believed in love. I am a romantic and a lover. I knew there was someone out there for me,” Anna <a rel="noopener" href="https://7news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/online-dating-australia-tips-by-sydney-woman-anna-swoboda-who-met-1000-men-to-find-love-c-4851501" target="_blank">told</a> </span><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">7Life</span></em><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I had seen friends make compromises and settle down. I couldn’t do that. I vowed to settle UP. The circle of men I could meet through friends was small, so I felt the best way to find someone special, my needle in the haystack, was to get out and meet lots of men.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I kept looking.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The now-41-year-old ended up going on more than 1000 dates in her pursuit for love.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“There were years where I would go out on dates five times a week, and years where I wouldn’t date at all because I was in a relationship,” she said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I also consciously took a few years off dating.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">As for discerning whether a first date would turn into more, she said she knew instantly.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I would know quickly if it was going to work or not. But I was always curious and genuinely interested in all my dates,” she explained.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I would feel men’s vulnerability and make sure that even if it wasn’t going to work, we should have a good time and both feel comfortable and valued. Men are much more vulnerable than they let on.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">After 1000 dates, two serious relationships and nine failed relationships, Anna met her now-fiancé through a mutual matchmaking friend three years ago.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“He had just returned from living overseas, and she was convinced we would be great together, so she made the introduction. She was so right,” Anna recalled.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“My fiancé and I are very compatible and have the same mindset. This is what makes a huge difference.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Reflecting back on her dating history, Anna admitted that she wouldn’t have gone on many of the dates she went on.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Dating is not a numbers game,” she said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“It’s about really understanding your requirements and compatibility. At the time I wasn’t clear about the ultimate vision for my life and my relationship.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I also wasn’t fully aware of my limiting beliefs in regards to dating and relationships.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Now a relationship coach, Anna has started her own matchmaking business, called <a rel="noopener" href="https://heartmatch.com.au/" target="_blank">HeartMatch</a>, to help others find love.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“There is someone out there for everyone,” she said.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: Anna Swoboda</span></em></p>

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