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Online dating fatigue – why some people are turning to face-to-face apps first

<p>For the last two-plus years, people hoping to meet their soulmate in person have had a rough time. Lockdowns and uncertainty about social gatherings have led many people to turn to dating apps. People who feel they have lost months or years of their dating life may be eager to avoid the perils of dating apps – <a href="https://theconversation.com/from-ghosting-to-backburner-relationships-the-reasons-people-behave-so-badly-on-dating-apps-179600" target="_blank" rel="noopener">ghosting, backburner relationships</a>, or just wasting time chatting with the wrong people.</p> <p>People are eager to meet in person, and the menu of dating apps is expanding to accommodate this. In addition to the likes of Tinder, Hinge and Bumble, there are apps that focus on bringing people together in person.</p> <p>One of these is an <a href="https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2022/01/07/thursday-dating-hit-millennials-suffering-app-fatigue/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">increasingly popular</a> app called Thursday. It is live just once a week (on Thursdays) and gives users just 24 hours to arrange a date. This cuts down on the onerous swiping and messaging throughout the week and possibly prevents people using the app simply for validation or amusement. Thursday also hosts in-person events where attendees might meet someone without swiping at all.</p> <p>There are a few reasons in-person dating may be more appealing to some people than dating apps. The information we glean from online profiles gives us little to go on. Meeting in person results in a far richer and more detailed impression of a date than meeting online, where all we see is a photo and, usually, a brief bio. Also, 45% of current or previous users of dating apps or sites reported that the experience left them <a href="https://www.pewresearch.org/ft_2020-02-06_datingtakeaways_02" target="_blank" rel="noopener">feeling frustrated</a>.</p> <p>Online dating matches us to people we don’t know, making it easy for <a href="https://theconversation.com/first-the-love-bomb-then-the-financial-emergency-5-tactics-of-tinder-swindlers-176807" target="_blank" rel="noopener">scammers to take advantage of them</a>. Apart from this, users often misrepresent themselves, resulting in disappointment when daters meet face to face.</p> <p>While online dating appears to offer an abundance of choice, <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15213269.2015.1121827?cookieSet=1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">research suggests</a> that we make poorer decisions online about dating choice. We use simpler methods when choosing from a large array of potential suitors than when we choose on a one-to-one basis in person. This is often referred to as the paradox of choice.</p> <h2>Are dating apps dead?</h2> <p>Dating apps have undisputedly had a huge impact on how couples meet. In the US, <a href="https://news.stanford.edu/2019/08/21/online-dating-popular-way-u-s-couples-meet/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">meeting online is the most popular</a> way that couples meet, and the number has increased in recent years.</p> <p>Part of the appeal of apps is their simplicity: you can create a profile and start matching with people in a matter of minutes. Despite this, using dating apps does take time and effort. A large survey by <a href="https://www.bustle.com/p/millennials-spend-average-of-10-hours-a-week-on-dating-apps-survey-finds-but-heres-what-experts-actually-recommend-8066805" target="_blank" rel="noopener">dating app Badoo found</a> that millennials spend on average 90 minutes a day looking for a date, by swiping, liking, matching and chatting.</p> <p>Often, messages by one party go unanswered by the other, and even if there is a response, the chatting may never result in meeting in person. In 2016, Hinge’s data found that only <a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2016/10/03/why-is-the-dating-app-hinge-bashing-swipe-apps/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">one in 500 swipes</a> resulted in phone numbers being exchanged.</p> <p>This onerous process may lead to online dating fatigue for some. If we get no positive matches from our seemingly endless swiping, or we receive no response to our messages, our online dating efforts will eventually fizzle out.</p> <p>Traditional dating apps are still incredibly popular, especially among young people. As of 2021, Tinder has been <a href="https://www.tinderpressroom.com/news?item=122515" target="_blank" rel="noopener">downloaded</a> over 450 million times – with Generation Z making up 50% of the app’s users.</p> <p>Research by <a href="https://lendedu.com/blog/tinder-match-millennials/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Lendedu</a> asked 3,852 millennials whether they had ever met up with their Tinder matches. The research found that only 29% said “yes” – much lower than the 66% who reported meeting for at least one date via more traditional dating sites such as Match or OKCupid.</p> <p>But not everyone on Tinder is hoping to find a date. <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0736585316301216" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Research among Dutch Tinder users found</a> that many use the app for validation (using matches merely as an assessment of one’s own level of attractiveness), or for the thrill of receiving a match but having no intention of pursuing a date.</p> <p>For this reason, dating apps may eventually lose users who are pursuing genuine relationships, particularly if they are instead turning to face-to-face opportunities first. But as long as they adapt to the changing demands of daters, apps are here to stay.</p> <p><em><strong><span id="docs-internal-guid-4ce66f8c-7fff-c363-fc29-f51da3852aa7">This article originally appeared on <a href="https://theconversation.com/online-dating-fatigue-why-some-people-are-turning-to-face-to-face-apps-first-184910" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Conversation</a>.</span></strong></em></p> <p><em>Image: Shutterstock</em></p>

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Ally and Karl's racy joke about Rupert Murdoch's fourth divorce

<p>Ally Langdon and Karl Stefanovic, hosts of The Today Show have burst into a giggle fit during Thursdays show, joking that it’s time for Rupert Murdoch to ‘put his cue back in the rack’.</p> <p>The Australian-born media mogul, aged 91, is reportedly divorcing his fourth wife, American model and actress Jerry Hall, aged 65.</p> <p>While discussing the split live on air, Langdon and Stefanovic couldn't help but laugh at the idea of someone ending their marriage at such an old age.</p> <p>Today show's LA-based entertainment reporter Sam Rubin provided a summary of the report, Langdon said: “I don't know, Sam.</p> <p>“If these guys can’t make it work, what chance is there for the rest of us, I say!”.</p> <p>Stifling laughter, she asked Rubin if a potential fifth marriage was on the cards for the News Corp executive chairman.</p> <p>Rubin replied that Murdoch “is more vibrant' than most men his age, which drew giggles from Langdon back in the studio.</p> <p>Stefanovic then interrupted: “What Ally's trying to say is that Rupert should put his cue back in the rack!”</p> <p>But moments later he suggested Murdoch should remarry because he's “loving life... he's still a handsome man [and] wealthy.”</p> <p>It was Rubin's remark that Murdoch would have “many willing partners” prepared to marry him that set the hosts off.</p> <p>Stefanovic burst out laughing and said, “No doubt!”</p> <p>Murdoch got married to Hall in a low-key ceremony in central London in March 2016 and is now getting a divorce.</p> <p>This divorce, being his fourth, is unlikely to alter the ownership structure of businesses he holds stakes in, which include Fox Corp, the parent company of Fox News Channel, and News Corp publisher of the Wall Street Journal.</p> <p>The 91-year-old controls News Corp and Fox Corp through a Reno, Nevada-based family trust that holds roughly a 40% stake in voting shares of each company.</p> <p><em>Image: Today Show</em></p>

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Brad Pitt gives rare insight into what's next

<p>Brad Pitt has opened up about his high-profile divorce from Angelina Jolie in a candid new interview. </p> <p>The Oscar-winning actor told <a href="https://www.gq.com/story/brad-pitt-august-cover-profile" target="_blank" rel="noopener">GQ magazine</a> that he felt deep turmoil over the split, but believes deep sadness is a vital part of growth. </p> <p>“I think all our hearts are broken,” Pitt said. </p> <p>“I always felt very alone in my life, alone growing up as a kid, alone even out here, and it’s really not ’til recently that I have had a greater embrace of my friends and family.”</p> <p>Pitt and Jolie, 47, ended their 12-year relationship in 2016, prompting a years-long divorce battle which is yet to be finalised, although they were declared legally single in 2019.</p> <p>The 58-year-old also said he found joy "later in life" after years of "low-grade depression".</p> <p>“I was always moving with the currents, drifting in a way, and onto the next,” he told the publication. </p> <p>“I think I spent years with a low-grade depression, and it’s not until coming to terms with that, trying to embrace all sides of self – the beauty and the ugly – that I’ve been able to catch those moments of joy.”</p> <p>Pitt also revealed that his acting days are numbered, after a decades long career that saw him star in iconic films including <em>Ocean’s Eleven</em>, <em>Fight Club</em>, <em>Inglourious Basterds</em>, and more recently, <em>Once Upon A Time In Hollywood.</em></p> <p>“I consider myself on my last leg,” he said. “This last semester or trimester. What is this section gonna be? And how do I wanna design that?"</p> <div id="ad-block-4x4-1" data-type="unruly" data-ad-size="4x4" data-device-type="web" data-ad-tar="pos=1" data-ad-pos="1" data-google-query-id="CLnHvr6gwvgCFRh6jwodcoMJRQ"> <p>“I’m one of those creatures that speaks through art. I just want to always make. If I’m not making, I’m dying in some way.”</p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p> </div>

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9 common behaviours that are subtly sabotaging your relationship

<h2>Making your mobile phone the top priority</h2> <p>We live in a culture where we’re constantly checking our mobile phones. But, this obsession comes at a cost, and the casualty of a technology obsession can be your personal relationship. “The most prevalent habit that sinks relationships is keeping your mobile phone on, and looking at it every time it makes a noise while you’re with your partner,” says psychiatrist, Dr Carole Lieberman. “Answering your phone is even worse than just looking at text messages or emails, and this tells your partner that they are not as important as whoever else is trying to reach you.” Dr Lieberman says a solution is to turn off your phone when you’re having dinner, being intimate, or doing anything else where your partner expects your full attention.</p> <h2>Being jealous</h2> <p>Jealousy within relationships typically comes down to fear of abandonment and not feeling good enough, says psychologist, Dr Michele Kerulis. “Jealousy can stem from insecurity, lack of trust, fear of betrayal, low confidence, and can linger from past relationships and life experiences,” Dr Kerulis says. To smooth over a situation, she suggests talking to your partner about your feelings and concerns. “Take the time to have a conversation with your partner about specific situations that made you feel jealous and explain why you believe you felt that way,” suggests Dr Kerulis. “If you see patterns of feeling jealous throughout your life, whether it is within romantic relationships, friendships, or with family members, it is a good idea to talk with a counsellor to process your feelings and to get a better understanding of why jealousy plays a role in your life.”</p> <h2>Nagging and complaining</h2> <p>A nagging mate can quickly create tension and division. “I suggest practising the art of holding your tongue, prioritising, and considering your approach,” says relationship expert, Dr Melanie Ross Mills. She advises to consider waiting until a good time to discuss what is bothering you, instead of nagging. “Be patient if he or she is not ready when you are to discuss the matter. Ask them to let you know when a good time might be. You can circle back then, instead of nagging and complaining,” Dr Mills says.</p> <h2>Acting ungrateful</h2> <p>It can be challenging to appreciate the small things in your partner. “But, it’s a life discipline to cultivate,” says Dr Mills. “Seeing the good [he or she does] will help. I suggest making a conscious effort to thank your partner for the small things: from putting the cap back on to earning an honest living with hard work, from taking out the trash to helping prepare dinner for the family,” she adds.</p> <h2>Lacking communication</h2> <p>Not having an open dialogue or an effective communication system in place can cause feelings of resentment, misunderstanding, hurt, and feeling unappreciated. “Instead of letting the small offences fester, talk about them when the timing is right,” says Dr Mills. “Don’t let too much time pass which can cause you to internalise your true feelings. Share with your partner about what is going on with you daily.”</p> <h2>Losing yourself in the relationship</h2> <p>It’s common for people to lose their own sense of self if they don’t make an exerted effort to continue to grow, learn and evolve, says Dr Mills. “Don’t forget to have your own life. Make time to do things that fulfill you instead of waiting for your partner to get interested in your same interests,” she advises. “Believe it or not, this actually makes you more attractive. You contribute to the relationship dynamic because you have interests, you’re interesting and you’re confident.”</p> <h2>Fighting with your partner over text message</h2> <p>It’s never fun or desirable to fight with your partner, especially when you are not in the same room, town, or city. “Couples who are in long-distance relationships or couples who just are not in the same vicinity of their partner all the time will most likely engage in text-fighting,” psychiatrist, Dr Gabriella I. Farkas. “Text-fighting is one of the bad habits that people do that can eventually lead to a downward spiral in a relationship.” She says fighting via text is a terrible way to communicate your feelings for many reasons, including you aren’t sure how your partner is reacting. “So, you will keep texting incessantly even if something that has been said hurts the partner’s feelings,” Dr Farkas says. “Instead of fighting via text where there is no way to emphasise or relay emotion correctly, it’s important to sit back and wait until there is the opportunity to have the conversation face-to face.”</p> <h2>Overstepping social boundaries</h2> <p>Speaking on behalf of your partner can create a sense of resentment. This behaviour can be intrusive, because making decisions for you partner can be demeaning, disrespectful and impede a person’s sense of self, says an article in Psychology Today. “Without noticing it, we may be intrusive or controlling toward our partner, acting in a manner that is disrespectful or demeaning to the other person’s sense of self. When this happens, it not only hurts our partner and his or her feelings for us but it undermines our strength and feelings for our partner,” the article says.</p> <h2>Unwilling to try new things</h2> <p>While no one should force themselves to do something they don’t want to do, shutting down the part of ourselves that seeks new experiences and responds to a spark in our partner can drain us of our aliveness and spontaneity, says the same article in Psychology Today.</p> <p><em><strong>This article originally appeared on <a href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/relationships/9-common-behaviours-that-are-subtly-sabotaging-your-relationship" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Reader’s Digest</a>. </strong></em></p> <p><em>Image: Shutterstock</em></p>

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Bride-to-be throws fit over engagement ring

<p dir="ltr">A bride-to-be has slammed her fiancé for the hideous engagement ring he proposed with despite her explaining which one she wanted.</p> <p dir="ltr">The woman vented her frustration in a Facebook group explaining how she tried hard not to hate the ring.</p> <p dir="ltr">She then shared two images - one of the ring she was given, and another of the $8,859 mint sapphire ring she wanted.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I was very excited for the proposal, then this thing came out of the box,” her post read.</p> <p dir="ltr">“First thing I said was ‘omg that's massive’. I didn't like it at all but I spent a few hours trying not to hate it so much.”</p> <p dir="ltr">To make matters worse, the sizing of the ring was completely wrong to the point where it got stuck on her finger.</p> <p dir="ltr">This might have been a sign as the bride-to-be had to be taken to hospital to have the ring cut from her finger. </p> <p dir="ltr">“The pegs were trying to cut me at every opportunity, and it was way too tight. I did get measured, twice, and I sent him my measurements from every country, but the jeweller f****d up still.” she continued in her rant. </p> <p dir="ltr">“I'm devastated and crying. He can't get me another ring because it won't be possible before the wedding. I'll never be engaged for real.” </p> <p dir="ltr">She asked other group members to make her laugh but instead they advised her to reconsider the relationship after not getting what she asked for. </p> <p dir="ltr">"Sounds like you are compromising a lot and not getting any of what you want in return. Postpone the wedding. Don't do it this way. If he isn't even listening or caring now... well.. I speak from experience and a divorce,' one woman said.</p> <p dir="ltr">“This was obviously important to you and if he can’t listen and respect you enough to do this right it sounds like there might be bigger issues at play,' one person wrote. </p> <p dir="ltr">“Would you consider postponing the wedding for a while. Is this a one off? The fact that he didn’t listen to what you had expressed you would like to receive doesn’t bode well. I get he may have been coming from a place of well meaning but you told him exactly what you would like and he totally disregarded it. Please don’t rush into marriage,” another suggested.</p> <p dir="ltr">“If you still feel this is the man you want to spend your life with tell him you would like a long engagement with the ring of your choice and if he can’t respect that then you have a pretty good idea of what you are getting in to,” someone else commented.</p> <p dir="ltr">The woman was not having any of it and replied to the comments in defence of her future husband. </p> <p dir="ltr">“In general he's amazing. I genuinely thought I'm going to get a beautiful ring. I was actually in shock how bad it is because I never saw it coming,” she began.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I also blame the jeweller a lot more than him, I mean I'm sad he didn't get me the one I wanted as it is for sale but the jeweller did everyone dirty the most in this scenario.” </p> <p dir="ltr">She also revealed that they eventually went shopping together and purchased a new ring. </p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Images: Facebook</em></p>

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Robert Irwin’s awkward fan interaction

<p dir="ltr">Robert Irwin has accidentally rejected an American tourist who may be in love with him after “missing” her message. </p> <p dir="ltr">The son of the great Steve Irwin was called cute by Megan Grass after he completed a show at Australia Zoo. </p> <p dir="ltr">She shared the footage to <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@megangrass12/video/7109012062063562030?is_copy_url=1&amp;is_from_webapp=v1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">TikTok</a> of her complimenting him before asking for his number to a round of laughter. </p> <p dir="ltr">Robert said he was “flattered” and proceeded to ask where she was from to which she responded Utah, America. </p> <p dir="ltr">“Utah is great. I’ll tell you what, the easiest way is literally on Instagram so my people can monitor and see where it comes from because my number is hit and miss,” he said to her.</p> <p dir="ltr">Megan then to his surprise revealed that she had in fact messaged the night before to let him know she was going to Australia Zoo. </p> <p dir="ltr">He asked for her name and said “I’ll look it up” before waving and putting his thumb up. </p> <p dir="ltr">It however appears that Robert did not “look up” Megan as she is yet to receive any form of communication from him. </p> <p dir="ltr">"I think it definitely paid off because I got the opportunity to meet Robert, which is really cool," she said on <em>The Today Show</em>. </p> <p dir="ltr">"I definitely was not expecting it to blow up the way it did but it was a really cool experience all together and Robert was so sweet about it."</p> <p dir="ltr">When asked about what she liked about Robert, Megan said it was the fact that “he’s a great guy all together”.</p> <p dir="ltr">"I just think he's literally the sweetest person ever, like I was a stranger who asked for his number and he didn't have to be polite about it but he definitely was," she continued. </p> <p dir="ltr">"Robert's also like really busy and if he sees it [her message], he sees it, and if he doesn't, it's totally okay."</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Images: TikTok/Today</em></p>

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We all have secrets, but keeping them to yourself can be bad for your health

<h2>How to tell someone a big secret</h2> <p>We all have personal secrets. While not everybody needs to know everything about you, the benefits of sharing secrets can often be greater than whatever damage you’re imagining you will incur from doing so. Here’s how to tell someone a big secret.</p> <h2>Ask: is it harmful?</h2> <p>The idea that secrets can be a psychic weight is what first intrigued psychologist Michael Slepian. His research shows that 97 per cent of people have a secret, and the average person is keeping 13 at any given time. Keeping secrets has been linked with less-satisfying relationships, higher rates of anxiety and depression and a generally diminished sense of well-being. Slepian’s research revealed 38 categories of common secrets spanning everything from big ones (infidelity, addiction) to relatively minor ones (embarrassing habits, hidden possessions).</p> <p>All types of secrets have the potential to harm your mental health, but that harm doesn’t actually come from the stress of concealment. Slepian says the biggest clue to how damaging a secret is to you is how often you involuntarily think about it – like you’re picking at a scab. It’s more likely, says Slepian, that your mind will get stuck thinking about a secret that speaks to your intrinsic sense of self (a hidden marriage) than a more workaday secret (like the fact that I have a stash of chocolate that I hide from my family). “The hard part about having a secret is not that we have to hide it,” he says, “but that we have to live with it alone in our thoughts.”</p> <h2>Distinguish shame from guilt</h2> <p>Chances are good that the secrets that will weigh on you the most are the ones that make you feel bad about yourself. Many of us can relate to shame keeping us mum. (My husband still likes to remind me about when I “forgot” to tell him that I was visiting a psychic because I knew he would think it was silly and a waste of money.)</p> <p>Slepian says that what’s more harmful about shame – and what distinguishes it from guilt – is that when you feel ashamed you think I’m a bad person, but when you feel guilt you think I’ve done a bad thing. The latter is actually much healthier, he says, and telling your secret can help get you past the shame and to a place where you might reflect on your behaviour. And if you decide you acted wrongly, he adds, you can then figure out how to act differently next time. “You can learn from your mistakes.”</p> <h2>Confide…</h2> <p>The most obvious thing you can do to lessen the weight of keeping a secret, says Slepian, is to share it with someone. Telling it to another person – be it a friend, a therapist or even an online acquaintance – can reduce the number of times your mind will obsessively go back to it, sort of like opening an emotional pressure valve. But Slepian points out it’s not simply the act of confessing that helps get your mind out of the record groove – it’s the conversation that follows.</p> <p>“Confessing something on the Internet anonymously can feel really great for about 10 seconds,” he says. “But having a conversation with someone you trust works because people can bring a unique perspective, emotional support or advice.” Even being heard by one person can help you think about your secret differently and move forward.</p> <h2>But confide in the right person</h2> <p>Slepian says that people share 26 per cent of the secrets they’re told, which seems like a pretty big gamble to take if you have a secret you really want kept (mostly) under wraps. The key, he says, is to choose someone who has a similar set of morals and values as you. “People are more likely to pass on a secret if they’re morally outraged by the behaviour,” he says. “So don’t confide in someone who’s going to be scandalised by your admission.”</p> <p>You may not want to share, for example, that you’ve developed a crush on a colleague (even though you’re already in a relationship) with the friend who thinks that even looking at another person is tantamount to cheating. It’s probably better to save that particular tidbit for the pal who knows a bit of innocent daydreaming when she sees it and can reassure you that you’re not a monster who’s destined to break up your family.</p> <p><em><strong>This article originally appeared on <a href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/relationships/we-all-have-secrets-but-keeping-them-to-yourself-can-be-bad-for-your-health" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Reader’s Digest</a>.</strong></em></p> <p><em>Image: Shutterstock</em></p>

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7 clear signs you’re in a rebound relationship

<p><strong>Rebound or real love?</strong></p> <p>Whether you were in a 6-month relationship that you thought would go the distance, or a 10-year marriage that didn’t make it to 11, breakups are emotionally difficult. You may find yourself jumping into a new romance quickly and wondering if your rebound relationship can go the distance. Or, you may be terrified that you’ve fallen for someone on the rebound who doesn’t really care for you. “When you’re hurting from a past relationship and want to avoid feeling the pain, [and] you jump into another one right away – that’s a classic rebound relationship,” says relationship expert Audrey Hope. Rebound relationships are defined by more than just speed. A person who is rebounding may be trying to avoid their feelings about the breakup. Fixating on someone new is a great way to do that. “In a rebound relationship, there is no space and time to process the truth of the past love. The rebounder uses the technique of denial, plus moving on quickly, to stop their feelings. They might be moving so fast [that] they never stop to learn or grow from what was left behind,” Hope explains.</p> <p><strong>Your phone has become a lethal weapon</strong></p> <p>If you’re constantly listening for your ex’s special ringtone, or need to stop yourself from sending him/her/them text messages, that’s a red flag that you’re holding on and not ready to connect with someone new. “If you still have your ex’s number in your phone, you may be subconsciously holding out hope that they’ll reach out again. It may also feel too final to delete their number. Either way, keeping an ex’s number handy is a sign you’re still hung up on them, and not present in your new relationship,” says therapist Kimberly Hershenson. While it may be natural to hold on for a short time, this can be a sign that there are issues you need to work through before you can deeply connect with someone else.</p> <p>If you think your new honey is a rebounder, their phone may also provide clues (but don’t go snooping, that’s just creepy). If their wallpaper hasn’t been changed since you’ve been together, and their ex’s face is still the one they gaze at every day on that screen, have a heart-to-heart conversation about the issue, and be ready to move on to greener (more available) pastures.</p> <p><strong>You’re being tortured by social media</strong></p> <p>The internet is forever, but that’s not such great news for relationships that end in the meantime. If your rebounding honey is spending more time sneaking peeks at their ex’s social networks than they’re having fun with you, that’s a clue that they’re rebounding, instead of falling. “If you’re checking your ex’s social media frequently, such as looking at their Facebook, Twitter and Instagram accounts on a daily, or even weekly basis, it’s a sign you’re not over them. The need to see what your ex is up to should not be a priority if you are truly ready to move on in your new relationship,” says Hershenson. It’s common to peek into your ex’s life for a little while, but this behaviour, if it lasts longer than a few weeks, is a masochistic and toxic way of staying connected. It keeps the hurt alive, making it harder to move on.</p> <p><strong>It’s always happy hour</strong></p> <p>One of the more dangerous rebound relationship signs you must look out for is overuse of mind-bending substances. Sharing a bottle of wine is fun and romantic, but if every single date includes drinking, you may be in a dangerous rebound. “A rebounder may have new issues with substance abuse to keep the pain under wraps. They may need pills or alcohol, and this problem may grow. Watch for signs of drug or alcohol abuse that is way more than usual,” warns Hope.</p> <p><strong>Three’s a crowd</strong></p> <p>If your new love wants to keep their old love around, because now they’re ‘just friends’, you may want to put the brakes on the relationship. Ironically, this can also be a healthy sign that the old relationship is truly over. What you want to see is proof of the genuine healing of old wounds. This can occur only if time has passed, and the rebounder has put in the effort that self-examination takes.</p> <p>Arguing with your partner is inevitable. But knowing how to argue constructively with your partner is healthy.</p> <p><strong>Your ex is the main topic of conversation</strong></p> <p>If your new love is starting to feel like your ex-love is haunting them, it may be because you never stop talking about them. This may take the form of how they ‘did wrong by you’, or how awful they were to you, with no introspection about your own role in the breakup. This type of fixation is a sure sign that you’re not truly in your new relationship and still need to process the old one. And if it goes on too long, you may be better off seeking the help of a therapist who can guide you and listen objectively. “If you or your partner think about your ex a lot, or talk about your prior relationship constantly, that’s a sign that there are unresolved issues, which need to be examined,” emphasises Dr Sinh.</p> <p><strong>You never ever mention your ex</strong></p> <p>If your former relationship is completely off-limits as a topic of conversation, this may also be a red flag of a rebound relationship. “The rebounder may never want to have an honest, heart-to-heart talk about their past relationship. They want to skip over the details, just move on, and live in the moment. To them, it is better to avoid, deny, and forget,” says Hope. If your past relationship is painfully tender to the touch for too long, you haven’t moved past it in a healthy way. This is a sure sign that you’ve got some emotional work to do before you can care for someone else.</p> <p><strong>Can it last?</strong></p> <p>So, are rebound relationships always doomed to fail? “Not necessarily,” says Dr Sinh. “If you find that you’re the one rebounding, it means giving yourself time to grieve and mourn your old relationship. This can be hard to do if you’re with someone else. If you really want to make it with the person you’re now with, then you have to work on the issues.” After doing the work, you may find yourself open to love, in a mature, lessons-learned way.</p> <p>But, what if your partner is the one who is rebounding? According to Dr Sinh, “If your partner has just left a past relationship, and you want to make it work, give them the time and mental and emotional space to figure out what they want to do. This is not the time to pester them to make a choice or demand they ‘get over’ their ex. This requires a wiser, more practical approach of pointing out the issues to them, and letting them figure it out. If they can’t do that, despite your patience, maybe it’s time to move on. You really don’t want to be with someone who has one foot out the door.”</p> <p><em><strong>This article originally appeared on <a href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/relationships/7-clear-signs-youre-in-a-rebound-relationship" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Reader’s Digest</a>.</strong></em></p> <p><em>Image: Shutterstock</em></p>

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Readers Respond: What is your favourite thing about being a grandparent?

<p dir="ltr">They say a mother’s love is different, as is a father’s love.</p> <p dir="ltr">But what about grandparents and their relationship with their grandchildren? Surely nothing compares. </p> <p dir="ltr">So we decided to ask you about the favourite thing about being grandparents and it sure made us miss ours. </p> <p dir="ltr">From a simple hug to just being in their presence - here are some of your most moving responses. </p> <p dir="ltr">JanWayne Richo - The same as being a parent, I love every single second of being with them!</p> <p dir="ltr">Lorraine Fox - Having the pleasure of their company.</p> <p dir="ltr">Pam Moss - I love every single moment I spend with my grandchildren. I love them to bits and love watching them grow into beautiful adults - love hugs and kisses and love the individuality of each one!!!</p> <p dir="ltr">Lorene Owers - Everything but especially when they give me a hug.</p> <p dir="ltr">Christine Scott - Their little arms around my neck for cuddles.</p> <p dir="ltr">Elizabeth Granter - Being a parent and grandparent is very special. Seeing them grow up into beautiful adults - love them to bits. </p> <p dir="ltr">Raymond Wagner - Filing their bellies with junk food and taking her home. </p> <p dir="ltr">Rick Dayes - Spending lots of time with them. They make me feel 20 years younger.</p> <p dir="ltr">Judy Garstone - Spending time and listening to their stories with them and getting big hugs.</p> <p dir="ltr">Elaine Costello - Being able to hand them back when they have entertained me to exhaustion and then looking forward to the next time.</p> <p dir="ltr">Heather Lawson Hillman - Everything but if I had to choose...it's seeing their face light up yelling grandma's here...as they run to see you.</p> <p dir="ltr">Sandra Bull - When you pull up outside their house and they are waiting screaming "nanny" "poppy".</p> <p dir="ltr">Judy Borwick - Love just being around them, listening, watching and being part of their lives. It's very special to me. </p> <p dir="ltr">Julie Auld - When we all get together. </p> <p dir="ltr">Share your cherished memories <a href="https://www.facebook.com/oversixtys/posts/pfbid0aq8wCPRwPKdkQ89SRBa2aLnsEFRrCjcmUKBbpDvKUetxM7FxSPwfbtDeoGtP3Xp1l" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Shutterstock</em></p>

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Crop that! Kate cut from royal family

<p>A hilarious series of suggestions have surfaced following speculation that Princess Eugenie deliberately cropped Duchess Kate out of a batch of Platinum Jubilee photos she shared online.</p> <p>It is this Instagram post shared on Eugenie's official account that has sparked the furore:</p> <blockquote class="instagram-media" style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/Cegi8pUoenU/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"> </div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"> </div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"> </div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <div style="padding: 12.5% 0;"> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;"> <div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);"> </div> </div> <div style="margin-left: 8px;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;"> </div> <div style="width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);"> </div> </div> <div style="margin-left: auto;"> <div style="width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);"> </div> <div style="width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);"> </div> </div> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;"> </div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/Cegi8pUoenU/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank" rel="noopener">A post shared by Princess Eugenie (@princesseugenie)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p>The first photo in the series features Her Majesty waving to onlookers from the balcony of Buckingham Palace.</p> <p>The second shows the Queen on the balcony with Prince Charles standing to one side and Prince William, Prince George and Princess Charlotte on the other.</p> <p>Camilla, the Duchess of Cornwall, and Kate, the Duchess of Cambridge, simply don't make it into the photo, although enough of their sleeves have been left in so viewers can see that the photo has been cropped.</p> <p>Princess Eugenie is not a senior working royal and so wasn't on the balcony for the Jubilee events, but she shared the photos along with the caption:</p> <p>"Thank you, Your Majesty, Grannie, for 70 years of service, selflessness and dedication. You are such a shining light for us all.</p> <p>"Just a final roundup of some epic moments of the most special weekend that I was so honoured to be a part of."</p> <p>Several followers then accused Eugenie of purposefully cropping Kate and Camilla out of the photo.</p> <p>"Why did you take Kate and Camilla out of the second picture?" asks one.</p> <p>"Lovely photos but why would you cut out the next two Queens, Camilla and Catherine? Very petty my dear," adds another.</p> <p>"Nice photos but why cut Kate and Camila, they are also hardworking, brave and powerful women, do not exclude your gender," one person asks.</p> <p>It could be that Instagram chose default sizing when Eugenie was loading the photos to share on social media.</p> <p>Princess Eugenie, Princess Beatrice and the Duke and Duchess of Sussex viewed Trooping the Colour from inside Buckingham Palace and were seated behind senior working royals at the Queen's thanksgiving service at St Paul's.</p> <p>Princess Eugenie and her family reside in Frogmore Cottage on the grounds of Windsor Castle. This is the former residence of the Duke and Duchess of Sussex.</p> <p>Eugenie and cousin, Prince Harry have always been close, with Eugenie and Meghan reportedly forming a friendship during their pregnancies.</p> <p><em>Image: Getty</em></p>

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Rebel Wilson drops huge relationship news

<p dir="ltr">Rebel Wilson has come out and shared an adorable photo with her “Disney Princess” girlfriend. </p> <p dir="ltr">The Aussie actress shared a selfie alongside fashion designer Ramona Agruma with the pair grinning from ear-to-ear.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I thought I was searching for a Disney Prince… but maybe what I really needed all this time was a Disney Princess,” Rebel captioned the photo with a rainbow and heart emoji and the hashtag that read “#loveislove”.</p> <p dir="ltr">The comment section was inundated with happy fans congratulating Rebel and Ramona on their relationship.</p> <blockquote class="instagram-media" style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CelyiLZLHa2/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"> </div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"> </div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"> </div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <div style="padding: 12.5% 0;"> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;"> <div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);"> </div> </div> <div style="margin-left: 8px;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;"> </div> <div style="width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);"> </div> </div> <div style="margin-left: auto;"> <div style="width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);"> </div> <div style="width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);"> </div> </div> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;"> </div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CelyiLZLHa2/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank" rel="noopener">A post shared by Rebel Wilson (@rebelwilson)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p dir="ltr">The exciting debut comes just months after Rebel confessed that she was seeing someone new that she was introduced to “through a friend”.</p> <p dir="ltr">“We spoke on the phone for weeks before meeting. And that was a really good way to get to know each other,” she told People.</p> <p dir="ltr">“It was a bit old-school in that sense — very romantic.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“I think going through the process of finding more self-worth, I think that what you want in a partner is elevated and so it’s great to have someone who feels like an equal partner and be in a healthy relationship.</p> <p dir="ltr">“There were times — I’m not saying with all my exes, they’re great — but there were some times that I was probably putting up with that I shouldn’t have. So it feels different to be in a really healthy relationship.”</p> <p dir="ltr">The loved up couple were first seen together at the Vanity Fair Oscars after party in March and were photographed together in April when they attended a charity ski event in Utah.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Images: Instagram/Getty </em></p>

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Woman wakes from coma to find she is now single

<p>An Australian woman has gone viral after revealing how her fiance left her for another woman while she was in a coma for three months.</p> <p>Brie Duval, 25, was living in Canada when her life took a horrific turn in 2020. She was out with friends when she fell off a 10m retaining wall, crashing headfirst onto the pavement.</p> <p>The 25-year-old was left with a brain injury and several broken bones and was flown to the University of Alberta Hospital where she was placed on life support in the ICU.</p> <p>Brie’s parents refused to turn off her life support and she miraculously began to show signs of improvement, waking up after three months. Additionally, Brie also suffered from post-traumatic amnesia, forgetting “simple things” like her passwords and address, she ended up remaining in hospital for an extra five months.</p> <p>Once she was able to remember day-to-day things, she was given back her phone and her first thought was to call her fiancé, as he hadn’t been with her in the hospital.</p> <p>That’s when she discovered her boyfriend of four years had moved in with another woman.</p> <p>In a TikTok that has been viewed two million times, Brie explained that when she went to call him for the first time after “finally” waking up from her coma, she found a text on her phone from another woman.</p> <blockquote class="tiktok-embed" style="max-width: 605px; min-width: 325px;" cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@hotcomagirl1/video/7103109625695784194" data-video-id="7103109625695784194"> <section><a title="@hotcomagirl1" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@hotcomagirl1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">@hotcomagirl1</a> Real coma experience vs. senior year coma experience! <a title="fyp" href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/fyp" target="_blank" rel="noopener">#fyp</a> <a title="coma" href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/coma" target="_blank" rel="noopener">#coma</a> <a title="braininjuryawareness" href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/braininjuryawareness" target="_blank" rel="noopener">#braininjuryawareness</a> <a title="braininjurysurvivor" href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/braininjurysurvivor" target="_blank" rel="noopener">#braininjurysurvivor</a> <a title="♬ original sound - HotComaGirl113" href="https://www.tiktok.com/music/original-sound-7103109615402912513" target="_blank" rel="noopener">♬ original sound - HotComaGirl113</a></section> </blockquote> <p>He also blocked her on all his social media accounts with the young woman claiming she hadn’t heard from her former fiance now in 11 months.</p> <p>“He doesn’t care that you nearly died with a 10% chance of living, but you know, at least he’s happy,” she continued.</p> <p>Brie’s video was immediately flooded with thousands of comments from other users also shocked by her fiance’s actions.</p> <p>Overwhelmed by all the support, Brie jumped into the comments section to thank viewers.</p> <p>“Thank you all for this support! I’ve had such a hard time and all of this love means the world,” she wrote.</p> <p>It prompted her to share several other videos, with one clarifying how exactly she fell.</p> <p>“So I did still plummet headfirst into concrete and go into a coma, I just wasn’t on a rooftop bar. I just said that because it was easier in the story to say rooftop bar.”</p> <p>If the news of her fiance wasn’t bad enough, given her freak accident happened at the height of the pandemic, her parents were unable to visit her in Canada, due to restrictions in Australia.</p> <p>“They told my mum that I had a 10 per cent chance of living and that she should get over to Canada as soon as she could because things weren’t looking good.”</p> <p>“My mum and dad went to the government and asked for special permission to say goodbye to me as things were bad at that point. They refused them, they would not give them a chance and they would not give them a reason, they just flat out said no.</p> <p>“So my mum told doctors in Canada to keep my life support on and do not under any circumstances turn that off, which they had to medically abide by.”</p> <p>Brie told the publication the incident made her realise she never wants to be apart from her family again and she has since moved back to Australia to be near them.</p> <p>The recovery process for Brie is ongoing as she continues to learn to live with a traumatic brain injury (TBI).</p> <p>“Getting back to normal life, just trying to establish what my new normal is – I couldn’t swallow when I first woke up. I’ve had to try and learn how to walk again – from my waist down to my toes, it feels like it’s gone dead,” she told the publication.</p> <p>She continues to share videos to raise awareness of what it’s like to live with a TBI.</p> <p><em>Image: TikTok</em></p>

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Prince Charles’ emotional tribute to “Your Majesty, mummy”

<p>Prince Charles paid an emotional tribute to “Your Majesty, mummy” during the star-studded Party at The Palace concert.</p> <p>The Prince of Wales poured his heart out as he praised the Queen for being with Brits “in our difficult times”.</p> <p>Millions of viewers watching from home were deeply moved as he said: “You have met us and talked with us.</p> <p>“You laugh and cry with us and, most importantly, you have been there for us.”</p> <p>Directly addressing The Queen as “Your Majesty, mummy”, he said: “The scale of this evening’s celebration – and the outpouring of warmth and affection over this whole Jubilee weekend – is our way of saying thank you – from your family, the country, the Commonwealth, in fact the whole world.</p> <p>“On behalf of us all, I wanted to pay my own tribute to your lifetime of selfless service.</p> <p>“Your family now spans four generations. You are our Head of State. And you are also our mother.”</p> <p>And he said the Queen’s “strength and stay” – her late husband Philip, who died last year – is “much missed”.</p> <p>“I am sure he’s here in spirit,” Charles said.</p> <p>“My papa would have enjoyed the show and joined us wholeheartedly in celebrating all you continue to do for your country and your people.”</p> <p>He addressed the crowd only moments after his son, the Duke of Cambridge, took to the stage to speak about the Queen’s service, using this time to talk about the environment, praising his father Charles and grandfather Philip for their work.</p> <p>“While no one’s grandmother thanks them for talking about their age, my own grandmother has been alive for nearly a century,” he said.</p> <p>“In that time, mankind has benefited from unimaginable technological developments and scientific breakthroughs.”</p> <p>“And although those breakthroughs have increased our awareness of the impact humans have on our world, our planet has become more fragile.</p> <p>“Today, in 2022 – as the Queen celebrates her Platinum Jubilee – the pressing need to protect and restore our planet has never been more urgent.”</p> <p>However, he said he is an “optimist” and said the Jubilee has provided great “joy” to Brits.</p> <p>William was accompanied to the concert by wife Kate and their eldest children Charlotte and George.</p> <p>The family were seen laughing and joking together as they took their seats for the party at Buckingham Place and hundreds of thousands of people lined The Mall to celebrate. There were huge cheers as the Cambridges arrived, hours after a royal visit to Wales with their two eldest children.</p> <p>The Queen did not attend the festivities, although she recorded a hilarious clip with Paddington Bear, which was screened before the performances began.</p> <p><iframe title="YouTube video player" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/8H3WJ2qRwiQ" width="560" height="315" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen"></iframe></p> <p><em>Images: Getty</em></p>

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Readers Respond: How do you deal with losing someone you love?

<p>The one thing that all humans are unfortunately guaranteed to experience is the loss of someone you love.</p> <p>In a way, you could say life is fair because it’s unfair to everyone.</p> <p>We asked our readers to share the way they deal with losing someone they love and the responses were nothing short of emotional.</p> <p>From keeping yourself busy or just taking each day as it comes - here are some of your answers.</p> <p>Julia Santos - Work. Work as much as I could. Being at home with my own thoughts and tears is too much at times. You cry. You pray. You keep going. After a while, the pain eases up a little bit.</p> <p>Carolyn Korlaki - One foot in front of the other, you never get over it, you get used to it!! And yes, you do change, you have to because now it's all on you!!!</p> <p>Cindy Kaye - It's never easy, however I believe the loved one would expect me to move on with my life. My daughter passed away 11 years ago, aged 38 and not a day goes by when I don't think of her. The special memories she left me with inspire me to keep going.</p> <p>Michelle Kotynski - One day at a time.</p> <p>Sharyn Watt - Losing your husband destroys the life you were living but you have to try to keep going and it is such a struggle. Remember the good times and just be grateful for the time you had together. </p> <p>Eleanor Taylor - Nobody dwells on it and I don’t feel sorry for myself. He was my love, my one and all. A person misses their intimate moments together for the last 60 years, I don’t want to move on. You move on if you want to but I miss my husband a lot.</p> <p>Joan Garufi - Remember the good times and allow yourself to grieve as long as you need too. There's no timeline to grieving someone you love...But just know that time makes it a little easier.</p> <p>Geoff Hunt - With great difficulty. You just keep going for the sake of the rest of the family.</p> <p>Kaye Boskovic - It's very hard especially when you have been together 53 years.You just have to hold your head up and keep on moving. At times it's very hard.</p> <p>Rosemary Moreland - By talking about them and remembering them and having their picture in a prominent place.</p> <p>If you would like to share some of your tips on how to deal with the loss of someone you love, click <a href="https://www.facebook.com/oversixtys/posts/pfbid0oZie9GU8Wtdb8hhcW6uvjQZmFwE7Q4LG1aWCGqNfFVFeqQuXGkdj4KvcBsnut7irl" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a>. </p> <p><em>Image: Shutterstock</em></p>

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Should you HAVE to pay for your daughter’s wedding? The debate rages on

<p dir="ltr">A retired mother has been left confused on whether or not she should help pay for her daughter’s wedding. </p> <p dir="ltr">She took to <a href="https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4559614-to-not-pay-for-my-daughters-wedding?page=1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Mumsnet</a> to explain that her daughter, who is in her 30s is planning her wedding to her boyfriend of 10 years. </p> <p dir="ltr">The mother explained that she and her husband have retired and don't have a stream of income to help as much as they possibly would have loved. </p> <p dir="ltr">“My husband and I are both retired so no more money is coming in. We do still go on holidays, but don't have anything like as much money as we used to have,” she wrote.</p> <p dir="ltr">“We happily paid for private education and private healthcare and plenty more for all our children and were happy to do so but am I being unreasonable to think that by now we've done our bit and our daughter should pay for her own wedding?”</p> <p dir="ltr">Several people responded to the woman’s thread saying she wasn’t being unreasonable to not pay for her daughter’s wedding. </p> <p dir="ltr">“No you’re not being unreasonable at all. I got married a few years ago and wouldn’t ever have expected my family to put money towards it, I chose to get married so I should pay. Don’t see how she can view it any differently,” one woman wrote. </p> <p dir="ltr">“My dad did pay for my dress as a token but I would never have expected it and we made sure we saved and budgeted appropriately.” </p> <p dir="ltr">“I got married at 28, wouldn’t have dreamed of asking for a penny, let alone expecting it!” another commented. </p> <p dir="ltr">“I don't plan on paying for weddings, I think it feels quite old-fashioned to do that. I would offer to give a donation, but the couple choose how big/small they want their celebration to be, so they should pay for that themselves,” someone else wrote. </p> <p dir="ltr">“Have you been parents of the bride or groom before? If yes, did you contribute to that? If not then now is the precedence to set. Instead of paying for the wedding can you offer a contribution or pay for one,” one explained. </p> <p dir="ltr">“Of course they should pay for their own wedding! Is your daughter expecting you to pay? If so, she's being utterly unreasonable,” someone else wrote. </p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Shutterstock</em></p>

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8 secret signs your marriage is headed for divorce

<div>Sometimes the signs that your marriage is on the rocks are surprising and sneaky. Always consider seeking professional guidance to help save your marriage.</div> <div> </div> <div> <div><strong>You speak but don’t communicate</strong></div> <p>Your communication doesn’t have to be meaningful day in and day out. But it’s troubling – and possibly one of the signs of divorce – if you never talk with your spouse about anything besides the weather or who needs to get more milk. “It’s a bad sign when speaking to each other seems superficial,” says psychotherapist, Marni Feuerman. “If you keep the day-to-day stuff inside, it creates distance and disconnection in your marriage,” says Feureman. That can make you feel less affection and fondness for your partner. The same goes if it’s one person doing all the talking and the other doing all the listening. “Remember, good communication is not just about speaking up on behalf of yourself,” says Francesca Di Meglio, the former Newlyweds Expert for About.com.  “It’s also about listening to – and really hearing – your spouse.”</p> <p><strong>You disagree about whether to have kids</strong></p> <p>You likely discussed the topic of having children before you got hitched, but feelings may change. Maybe you feel kids will get in the way of your career or your spouse wants to give up trying after fertility issues have made starting or adding to a family difficult. Di Meglio suggests putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. Figure out why he or she doesn’t want a baby and what’s motivating the argument. Persuasion isn’t the answer either. It’s unfair if you’re trying to talk someone into or out of a desire to have kids, says marriage consultant, Lesli M. W. Doares. “Parenting is hard enough when both people are on board,” Doares says. “Being talked into it will only create resentment.”</p> <p><strong>You’re spending less and less time together</strong></p> <p>You don’t have to be attached at the hip 24/7. But you should want to spend your free time with one another and enjoy being with your partner more than anyone else (most of the time). It’s perfectly fine to binge-watch a television show, surf the Internet on your phone, get lost in a book, work late, or socialise without your spouse. But consider if you’re using these activities as a distraction – to the point that it feels like a relief not to be together – from dealing with any issues in your marriage, one of the signs of divorce. “Creating regular time to be together as a couple and doing things that are fun is critical for a lasting, successful marriage,” says Doares.</p> <p><strong>You’re not putting in the work to improve your marriage</strong></p> <p>Both spouses need to put forth equal effort to make the relationship work. One person can’t go it alone. “If you lack the motivation to work on your marriage, to address issues that are cracking away at your relationship, then you have to figure out why,” says Di Meglio. “Often, the lack of motivation is an indication that something has been lost. It doesn’t mean you can’t get it back, but you have to dedicate yourself to figuring out why you’re feeling disenchanted and uninterested.”</p> <p><strong>You lack respect for one another</strong></p> <p>It starts with an innocent complaint, says Doares, like: “You didn’t do the dishes.” Then it morphs to more general criticism: “You never help around the house.” Then it evolves into a personality judgment: “You’re a selfish, lazy slob.” “This doesn’t happen overnight, but it gradually chips away at the foundation of your marriage,” says Doares. If you put one another down or constantly criticise one another, this may be one of the signs of divorce. “If you don’t respect the person, then you’ll have a hard time liking him or her, let alone loving him or her,” says Di Meglio. Think about whether something was said or done that made you lose respect, she adds. “Both people must be committed to earning back the respect, changing the questionable behaviour and communicating better,” says Di Meglio. “If that’s not possible or too much damage has been done, the marriage won’t last.”</p> <p><strong>Your partner is a serial cheater</strong></p> <p>Some couples can recover and move on from a marital stray, even making their marriage more united after one partner cheated. “Couples can survive an isolated affair,” says Doares. However, a serial cheater who has multiple affairs likely has a problem you can’t fix. “The only way to get over a betrayal – emotional or physical – is to earn back trust by not cheating ever again,” says Di Meglio. “If this is a pattern of behaviour, then you’ll never earn back the trust.” Some people just can’t be monogamous and aren’t cut out for marriage. Doares reminds people not to blame themselves. “This isn’t about you, but about your partner’s refusal to fully participate in your marriage,” she says.</p> <p><strong>You’re no longer intimate</strong></p> <p>We’re not saying you have to be all over one another like honeymooners, but a lack of chemistry is one of the signs of divorce. “The chemistry we feel for a spouse can ebb and flow for many reasons,” says Cathy W. Meyer, the About.com Divorce Support Expert. “It’s not unusual in a marriage to go through periods where we feel a lack of desire for our spouse.” When someone is sick or you have young kids, it’s natural to be less intimate. Even as you age, you might not want to be as physical as you once were. “But if you’re no longer intimate and this is consistent, you have to ask yourselves why,” says Di Meglio. “This is an even bigger problem if one of you wants sex and the other doesn’t.” A lack of physical affection means you’re in a platonic relationship. “Couples cease to be lovers and become roommates and business partners,” says Doares. “But that’s not the reason most of us get married.”</p> <p><strong>You argue about the same things over and over</strong></p> <p>It’s common for people to argue about the same issue throughout their marriage, says Feuerman. “This might lead to divorce if you let the arguments seriously escalate, fight dirty, shut down and refuse to talk, or excessively blame,” says Feuerman. You may need to compromise and do some give and take to put an end to the constant battles and differences. “It’s been my experience that couples get caught in a cycle of the same-old drama because they’ve lost interest in each other and the health of their relationship,” says Meyer.</p> <p><em>This article originally appeared on <a href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/culture/8-secret-signs-your-marriage-is-headed-for-divorce" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Reader’s Digest</a>. </em></p> </div> <p> </p> <div> </div> <p> </p>

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Elsa Pataky opens up about relationship with Chris Hemsworth

<p dir="ltr">Chris Hemsworth’s wife Elsa Pataky has opened up about their relationship, just months out from their 12 year anniversary. </p> <p dir="ltr">The 44-year-old actress opened up about how the pair work on their marriage, while confessing that it’s “not all that easy”.</p> <p dir="ltr">“No relationship is always a bed of roses, and all marriages are built bit by bit, out of good moments, wonderful moments, and also more difficult ones,” she told <a href="https://www.hellomagazine.com/fashion/celebrity-style/20220525141234/chris-hemsworth-wife-elsa-pataky-wows-revealing-dress-diamonds/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Hello!</a></p> <p dir="ltr">The Aussie couple married just after months being introduced by a mutual friend and share three kids - India, ten, and twins Tristan and Sasha, eight.</p> <p dir="ltr">Elsa credits her children for helping her be more patient, particularly when she is overwhelmed by being a mother of three young children. </p> <p dir="ltr">Chris previously spoke about his relationship with the former Fast &amp; Furious actress, saying challenges were normal. </p> <p dir="ltr">"There are challenges and you have to work hard — a good marriage doesn't just happen," he said. </p> <p dir="ltr">"I've been so fortunate to have had the career I've had so far, but my biggest achievement is, without doubt, my family.</p> <p dir="ltr">"My family and closest friends are some of the kindest and compassionate people I know, but my absolute greatest achievement is, of course, my children."</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Images: Instagram</em></p>

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"Let's do it!" How this couple came to be married mid-flight

<p>A couple from the US have eloped onboard a Southwest flight, after their elopement in Vegas fell through. </p> <p>The couple from Oklahoma, Pam Patterson and Jeremy Salda, were flying from Dallas to Las Vegas to get married in a chapel on the Vegas strip. </p> <p>However, when their flight was cancelled, their elopement was thrown into disarray. </p> <p>While thinking of a plan B, the couple got talking with Chris Kilgora, who was also destined to be on their cancelled flight. </p> <p>When the couple told Chris of their situation, he told them that he was an ordained minister and would be happy to marry them himself.</p> <p>The three travellers booked flights on the next plane from Dallas to Las Vegas, and made it onto their Southwest flight with just minutes to spare. </p> <p>As the couple were dressed in their wedding attire, the captain began talking with Pam and Jeremy at the gate and joked about them getting married on the plane. </p> <p>Astonishingly, they said, "Let's do it!"</p> <p>The Southwest cabin crew decorated the plane with anything they could find, while air hostess Julie stepped in as Pam's maid of honour. </p> <p>The couple were married 37,000 feet in the air by the ordained minister in a ceremony none of the staff, or other travellers, are likely to ever forget. </p> <p>One traveller handed around a notepad for everyone to write their names and seat numbers as a makeshift guest book, while a professional photographer who was onboard immortalised the ceremony with offical wedding snaps. </p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr" lang="en">Pam and Jeremy were traveling on one of our competitors to elope in Vegas when their final leg from DFW to LAS was canceled. Little did they know, their luck was about to turn. 🧵 <a href="https://t.co/D1aU9452An">pic.twitter.com/D1aU9452An</a></p> <p>— Southwest Airlines (@SouthwestAir) <a href="https://twitter.com/SouthwestAir/status/1520478095521857537?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">April 30, 2022</a></p></blockquote> <p>The Southwest Airlines official Twitter page shared a series of tweets detailing Pam and Jeremy's extraordinary wedding story, which quickly went viral. </p> <p>"Southwest has been the love airline for nearly 51 years," Southwest wrote in a statement to CNN. "We always enjoy an opportunity to celebrate our customers in special ways."</p> <p>Pam and Jeremy plan to follow hold a more traditional ceremony in Mexico where they can celebrate with family and friends.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Twitter</em></p>

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